Ideas For Your Morning Routine

It’s getting colder and the sun is rising later, which means we will all be waking up in the dark soon. Maybe it’s just me but as winter gets into full swing here on Long Island, waking up with no sunlight is so difficult. It literally could take an army to get me out of my bed. Even after waking up it’s tough to get going, just a constant groggy feeling – it sucks. Implementing a morning routine can help with all of this!

Starting the day on the right foot can lead to a super productive day. Having an effective and maintainable morning routine can help you keep those good mornings going day after day.

Did you know that having a morning routine can give you :

More Structure

Less Stress

More Free Time

Higher Productivity

Better Sleep Patterns

Better Health

Getting your life together in the morning can lead to all sorts of positive things! There’s no better feeling than waking up and feel productive. A morning routine can help with this! But it does take time and some fine tuning. Sometimes you plan too little and sometimes you plan too much, it about coming up with the perfect combination that gets you fired up to start your day. Don’t be discouraged if a morning routine didn’t work in the past, you can try again and make it better for you!

Having a morning routine can kick start the mood for your entire day. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy either. I personally give myself 30-45 minutes every morning to run through my morning routine. A routine can be different for everyone, some people need an hour to wake up some people need 5 minutes. If you are thinking about adding a morning routine to your schedule or just looking to change yours up a bit, here’s a list of some things you can include!

Make a Healthy Breakfast

Write Down Your Goals For The Day

Make a Cup of Coffee

Going for a Walk

Practice Yoga

Drink Water

Skincare Routine

Read for 30 Minutes

Journal

Shower

Make Your Bed

Workout

There are really endless possibilities that you can incorporate into a morning routine. The idea is to create a maintainable routine that not only makes you excited to wake up in the morning, but gets you ready to tackle the entire day ahead. It gives you time to plan in the morning and can help you lay out a game plan for the day. In reality, there really aren’t any downsides to a morning routine!

Do you have a morning routine? What are some of the things you do every morning?



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Quotes That Will Inspire You to Have the Best Monday Ever.

Monday’s can be tough, that is a fact.

Having an amazing weekend end, which it always does, never stops being tough. Even though we know Sunday will end, it always seems so abrupt every single time. Instead of mourning the weekend on a Monday, let’s make Monday the most productive day of your week. Whoever said Monday’s suck was a loser. Everyone knows Tuesday is the worst day of the week. Don’t @ me. Let’s flip the script a little bit, let’s make Monday’s cool again. Monday is a great day to start off your week.

Here are some of my favorite quotes that will give you the motivation you need to head into Monday like the badass that you are. Save this for another day or share it with your friends, Monday motivation is always needed (even if it isn’t Monday).


Happy Monday! Or, as I like to think of it, pre-pre-pre-pre-Friday!

Unknown

Always deliver more than expected.

Larry Page
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Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.

Henry Ford

The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.

Walt Disney

Do something instead of killing time because time is killing you.

Paulo Coehlo
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There is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs.

Zig Ziglar

Focus on being productive instead of busy.

Tim Ferriss

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.

Jim Rohn
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Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.

Paul J. Meyer

The earlier you start working on something, the earlier you will start to see results.

Unknown

Good things happen when you set your priorities straight.

Scott Caan
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The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.

Stephen R. Covey

Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.

Zig Ziglar

Sometimes the biggest gain in productive energy will come from cleaning the cobwebs, dealing with old business, and clearing the desks – cutting loose debris that’s impeding forward motion.

David Allen
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Stay Positive. Work Hard. Make it Happen.

Unknown

Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work that you already did.

Newt Gingrich

Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion.

Unknown
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Your talent determines what you do. Your motivation determines how much you are willing to do. Your attitude determines how well you will do it.

Lou Woltz

If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles.

Wayne Dyer

I would visualize things coming to me. It would just make me feel better. Visualization works if you work hard. That’s the thing. You can’t just visualize and go eat a sandwich.

Jim Carey
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Push Yourself – No one else is going to do it for you.

Unknown

Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.

Dwayne Johnson

You will never have this day again, so make it count.

Unknown
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Opportunity is missed by most because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.

Thomas Edison

The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.

Steve Jobs

Sometimes you just have to put on lip gloss and pretend to be psyched.

Mindy Kaling
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I never dreamed about success, I worked for it.

Estee Lauder

You can’t have a million dollar dream with a minimum wage work ethic.

Stephen C. Hogan

The most effective way to do it is to do it.

Amelia Earhart

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The Life of a Workaholic : 5 Ways to Disconnect From Work

Workaholic Definition : Noun /ˌwərkəˈhôlik,ˌwərkəˈhälik/ – a person who compulsively works hard and long hours.

So you’re a workaholic, I get it. So am I.

If you’ve followed along on my life adventures here or on Instagram (@teenafey), you know that I’ve kind of been on a small hiatus – Not really posting or promoting, Not really talking with anyone, Focusing on what I’m working on outside of my digital life and that’s really about it. It really was an unintentional break, but here we are almost 4 months later and I am finally getting back into the swing of things. And that really makes me happy and is something I’ve wanted to do for months but just couldn’t! Why has it been so difficult to get back to writing and sharing? Short Answer here is work. I have been so utterly and completely consumed with work that I barely have time to eat or get up from my desk throughout the day.

I started a new job mid-pandemic as a Marketing Strategist and I love every second of it. I work with some amazing brands and have been involved in some amazing branding and marketing projects. (Check out how I might be able to help you or your business). I’ve been so focused on work that I’ve put my blinders on to other parts of my life, including some things and people I really care about. So as a workaholic, I get it.

One of the hardest things to do as a workaholic is take a break, remove yourself from work for a bit and not worry. Even if you know that breaks have a huge positive impact to your productivity level, it’s still tough to really commit to one. By definition, workaholic means someone who can’t help but continuously work long and hard hours. Devoting all your time to work means that time has to be taken from somewhere else in your life. We do only get 24 hours in every day, we have to make the best of that. Borrowed time typically comes from spending it with family and friends, sleep, and even side hustles or passion projects that fulfill our human!

There’s nothing wrong with working hard, but when that time starts to be taken and your happiness is effected, it’s time to re-evaluate. Here’s 5 ways to keep your workaholic tendencies in check.

How to Disconnect From Work as a Workaholic

Work in Time Blocks and Respect Your Schedule

Workaholics get that there is not such thing as an 8 hour work day, that’s a rumor and a myth. The workaholic definition of when to stop working is when it’s done, and work is never done. Start breaking up your schedule into Time Blocks. Set a strict period of time that you are devoting to one specific task. When the time is up, you are done. If you are finished or not. The beauty of working in time blocks, especially as a workaholic, is that you acknowledge the deadline and you do whatever it takes to hit that deadline. There’s no more working until 1am or 2am when you set a limit that the task must be completed by 6pm, sharp.

Setting time blocks is only as effective as you are. The second part to this strategy is respecting your schedule. If you say it will be done at 6pm, you will be done at 6pm. Not 6:05pm or 8pm. 6pm. No excuses.

Start by evaluating the task or job at hand and come up with an estimate of home much time it will take to complete, or how much time you can devote to it in a single day. Then do it! It’s that simple. By setting and respecting your schedule, your overworking, workaholic tendencies will start to transform you into an incredibly productive worker over time. When your work is done for the day, so are you.

Meditation

One of the most difficult things for a workaholic to do is to stop thinking about work. Thoughts are constantly racing through one’s head before, during and after work and all those thoughts are about, you guessed it, work. Even if it’s just for five minutes, the idea of not stressing over work and really being able to disconnect is pretty peaceful.

Meditation is a great way to escape. The beauty of meditation is that you can devote 5 minutes to multiple hours or time to focuses on things other than work. Following guided meditations, or even taking a yoga class, can help clear you head for just a few minutes. You can search on YouTube for Guided Meditations and can escape through a quick video that is dedicated to bring rest and relaxation to those who constantly work on overtime.

Adding a 5 or 10 minute break into your day to practice rest and relaxation not only helps you disconnect from work, but can help with productivity in many parts of your life. Adding meditation into your morning or night routine can leave you feeling refreshed to start or end your day. Whenever you may find your mind racing about work, try incorporating a breathing exercise in its place. Invest in your well-being like you do your work!

Take a Lunch Break

Eat. I repeat, do not skip lunch.

Food is what keeps you going. If you are depriving yourself of food during the work day, you are not allowing yourself to be as productive as you could be. Not only does food fuel you and help keep your brain focused, but it also keeps you from getting hangry. The last thing you need is your emotions getting in the middle of work, whether it be with your internal team or a client. Maintaining your emotions can be directly correlated to how you eat. Crazy right? But it’s true.

Not skipping lunch can help you while you are working because it also helps with productivity. It helps you disconnect from work because If you are productive during the day and finish your work during the allotted time, my workaholic friend you will be able to disconnect from work without a worry.

Get Active

You heard me go get active! Being a workaholic means you are so invested in your work, your whole entire life revolves around it. There’s no better way to get your hamsters off their wheel in your brain than going and getting active. Sign up for a gym membership and start working out. Lifting weights and cardio is a great way to keep your body healthy, but also a great way to clear your mind. When you step into a gym, you are leaving your work-self behind and stepping into a new mindset. Getting into a fitness routine can keep you focused on goals that have absolutely nothing to do with work.

Whether it be joining a gym and getting started on your own, hiring a personal trainer, getting a Peloton, or joining a group fitness studio like SoulCycle or OrangeTheory, there are so many options for you to check out of work. What better than getting physically fit but also doing a little something for you mental health.

Having something to look forward too, besides from work, can be a major help in disconnecting for work everyday. So my workaholics out there, go get active.

Use Your Paid Time Off

Give yourself a break. Allow yourself to disconnect. By forcing yourself to work through holidays and days when you are sick, you are being an enabler to your workaholic self. It’s a tough mindset shift, but you have to allow yourself time to not work and truly be disconnected from work.

If you are a true workaholic, you probably cringed reading those three sentences. Reality is you know it’s true.

By working so hard day in and out you have earned a few days off. Go on a trip you’ve always wanted, spend a day with family, or even take a day to get some housework done. Your reasons can be anything, but take the time that you have earned. A workaholic knows that burnout is a real life possibility, especially when you are focused on work all 24 hours of the day. Remember to remind yourself that it is okay to take a day off of work. Work will always be there and it is not going anywhere, you earn your paid time off. When it comes down to it, as a workaholic, you have to admit that it is ok to take your mind off a work for a bit!


Taking a break from work is ok. Workaholics, don’t cringe at that thought. With last week being National Mental Health Awareness Week, it’s important to continue putting our mental health first this week and every week to follow. Being a workaholic is a good thing, it means you are dedicated, passionate, hard-working, and hungry for growth. Don’t let it become a weakness. Keep your productivity high and keep burnout at an all time low. Disconnect from work every once in a while, I promise it will end up okay!


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Life Milestones Adults Should Be Celebrating.

I just had to fill out a survey for “life milestones” that I have completed or anticipate completing in the past and upcoming year. Just a few questions included were : Did you buy a home? Are you pregnant? Did you have a baby? Are you planning a wedding? Do you plan or planning a wedding? Do you plan on getting pregnant? Are you going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding? Are you graduating with a new degree? If anyone knows my life, you are aware that the answer to every single one of those questions is a hard no. I’m sure there are many others who fall into the same boat as me. If we haven’t answered yes to any of those questions, have we really accomplished anything in our lives so far?

Some might say yes. But I don’t think that’s the case at all, soo ya girl did a little brainstorming. Check out this list of life milestones that adults should be celebrating.

Social Media does not always do the best job at building up our self esteems. With social media feeds with perfectly curated images with designer fashion, luxurious vacations, and every home renovation you’ve ever wanted (for the house you don’t own), constantly being scrolled through and double tapped it’s hard to not compare your reality to someone else’s. Comparing your life to someone else’s is inevitable but should be avoided at all costs. If you think you have nothing to celebrate in your life than keep reading.

Life Milestones That Should be Celebrated More

Starting a New Job

Any change in a career should be noted as a milestone. We spend most of our time working, at least I do! Our jobs and careers do define us to a degree because they take up a lot of our daily time. One of the first questions you ask someone when you meet them is, “What do you do?” Your career is a large part of your life, so why not celebrate a change? So if you got a new job this year or hell if you left your job and started your own company, You go Glen Coco! That’s a milestone if I’ve ever heard of one.

It takes guts to take a leap of faith and start something new. Whether it’s a job in a new industry, a total new career path, or a new business. Trust me, that does not go unnoticed. There’s multiple reasons why you might get a new job. You could out grow your current role or you could have gotten fired. Maybe you had a very toxic workplace and finally built up the courage to jump ship. Moral of the story – It’s a big decision, a big deal, and definitely a life milestone.

Leaving a Toxic Relationship

There’s always so much celebration about relationships moving to the next level or stage, but there doesn’t seem to be any for ending one. In today’s world there is a lot pressure to portray a perfect life and image and that includes relationships. Having a picture perfect engagement and wedding are things that some people dream of, even if it is with the wrong person and things are going south. We create false realities and say “it will get better.” Sometimes that works, but other times it doesn’t. If you are in a relationship that just isn’t working anymore, there is no harm is saying you tried, you did your best (Dane Cook voice #iykyk), and it’s time to move on.

Let’s start seeing endings as new beginnings. Leaving a toxic relationship is so much more of an accomplishment to be proud of than sticking around and forcing a future with someone that just isn’t meant to be. Realizing your worth and leaving a bad situation is 100% a life milestone.

Moving to a New City

Moving is typically tied with sadness, not always but hear me out. Leaving a place you’ve lived means leaving the life you’ve built, the friends you’ve made, and your home behind. It’s so tough. I’ve moved and seen friends move to different sides of the country, and it hurts every time. It’s sad to know that things aren’t going to be the same anymore and that life is going to change. Just because things are changing doesn’t mean it’s a bad change!

Whether it’s you moving or a friend moving, it is something to be celebrated. Change is a good thing and that needs to be celebrated more. Embrace that new city and the new life you are going to built! Look at everything that’s ahead, not what you are leaving behind. Life milestone approved.

Paying off Your Credit Cards in Full Every Month

You know what’s really cool? Finally being able to call yourself financially stable.

Starting out a career right out of college or after high school has the tough reality that you aren’t going to be making the amount of money that you want to be to support your lifestyle. That can lead to crippling debt month over month, and that’s a scary position to be in. What’s a really awesome accomplishment that you should be proud of? Finally being able to pay off a credit card balance in full and not carry over debt month to month. That’s a life milestone accomplishment. Can you also start putting money aside to invest into a 401k? You’ve made it to stability, you should be pumped.

Starting a Side Hustle

Starting a side hustle means you are hungry for more, and that’s a pretty awesome thing! That means you want more out of life than you are currently getting. Maybe it’s more money, a more fulfilling path, or a more flexible schedule so you can spend more time with your family. Your “why” could be a million different things and it doesn’t impact the fact that you started something new! That’s something to be celebrated.

It takes a whole lot of courage to start something new and takes even more to continue building something from scratch every single minute of every single day. The effort and dedication it takes to start a side hustle is no small feat. If you decided to start you own side hustle, kudos to you, you took the first step. Life milestone achieved!

Saying “No” to Someone or to Something

Learning to respect your time is a huge deal. I’m a big yes person, and I’m still working on this, but I am so incredibly proud and jealous of the people who have mastered this. When you say no to a person or an obligation, it is ok. You’re not letting anyone down. It’s a big deal to finally respect your time and realize that you cannot do everything, you may want to but you also don’t want to run yourself into the deep end. Saying “No” to someone or something is an accomplishment in itself.

Huge shout out to everyone who can say no to an event or plans, you reached a big old life milestone and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.


See there’s a lot of things to be celebrated as life milestones!

What have you done that is a major life milestone? Let’s normalize celebrating the little things that are really big things!

The moral of the story here is to know that you are living an amazing and fulfilled life, even if you aren’t hitting the so-called life milestones that you’re supposed to be accomplishing at your age. There are so many things to be celebrated every single day.

Real Talk – do not compare your life to someone else’s 🙂


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Positive Quotes for Tough Times

Friday Five

Another Friday another Friday Five. This week has been one emotional roller coaster for me. Seriously, there’s been so many feels and so many personal battles I’ve had to fight and I think my Friday Five reflects that pretty well. So if you are dealing with something in your life, I hope this helps.

One thing I’ve been actively focusing on this week is staying positive and really focusing on the good in life. I may think everything around me is falling a part, but taking a closer look into what’s going on, not everything is thatttttt bad. I’ve had quite a few ugly cries that I’d rather not admit to, but we’re all human and it happens. Break Ups suck. End of story!

But it’s Friday! WOOOOO! The week is over and I’m so thankful. It’s actually ending on a pretty damn high note if you ask me. I’m hoping to share some big news with you all soon, but until then here’s my Friday Five, all the things I’m super thankful for this week!

1. The Good Quote

The Good Quote has been one of my go to Instagram accounts for some time. If you follow me you are most likely familiar with them because I share them 2 to 3 times a day on my story. They share the most relatable quotes for all different situations you may face. TheGoodQuote community includes 20 million people! Everyone needs a pick me up, feel good moment sometimes. This week was my time for that and I am so thankful for the TheGoodQuote for always having a post that I could relate to.

With May ending, which means Mental Health Awareness Month is also ending, I hope that people don’t forget about how important it is to keep an eye on their own well-being.

2. Air Pod Pros

The amount of obsession I have for my Air Pod Pros is limitless. I swear I didn’t know what I was I missing without them. This week I needed them to zone out and really just shut my head up. My head hamsters were going off running on their wheel and music was the only way to drown out the thoughts. So big shout out to Apple and their Air Pods (that I totally used to make fun of because I thought they were useless and dumb). They are totally worth the investment and I can’t tell you enough good things about them. Old me was a dumb-dumb for even hating on them in the slightest.

3. Claritin-D

This week was brutal for allergies. I know I am not alone in experiencing them but holy cow it’s like I’ve been walking through a cloud of pollen every day. No sleep for me, until Claritin-D did the lord’s work and got me back to normal. So Claritin-D, Thank You!

4. Twinings Tea

Tea at night has been a staple for as long as I can remember at my house. Personally I drink Green Tea like water, but this week I tried something different. I was drinking lemon tea with honey, trying to help with my allergies, and I think I found my new favorite tea!

I recently got this amazing variety pack of Twinings Tea and this is the first week I’m really straying form the norm and trying some new flavors. Really been a game changer. If you are a tea person or if you might be interested in trying it out, this pack is perfect for you. The 50-count assortment pack is incredible. Not only is drinking tea a solid staple in any nighttime routine, but at any point in the day drinking tea has always been a nice reminder for me to just relax.

5. ME!

This week has been a challenge but has really helped me grow. Lessons have been learned and self-reflection was at an all time high. No matter how I may be put down, I’m learning to love myself and be confident through everything. I always strive to be a positive light through negativity, and sometimes I forget that. Being positive and hopeful isn’t always easy, but when it’s all said and done loving yourself should always come first. So because of that, I am extra thankful for myself this week.

It’s more that okay to give yourself a pat on the back especially when you deserve it. Don’t forget to be proud of yourself. Self love means loving yourself no matter the time, place, or situation. It gets lost in translation sometimes, but you don’t need anyone to complete you. Never forget how truly awesome you are. 🙂


Happy Friday everyone! Enjoy the last few days of May!

I challenge everyone to come up with 5 things they are thankful for this week. It can be anything!

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How to Make Your Comeback Better Than the Setback

Who remembers Britney Spears in 2007? I absolutely do. That, my friends, is coming damn near close to hitting rock bottom. Shaved head and all Britney climbed back up from the depths of darkness to one of the best comebacks the world has ever seen. As much as I hope no one ever gets near rock bottom, there’s sometimes other things that happen in our life that can send us into an emotional spiral.

Let’s admit it, life isn’t always butterflies and rainbows. We’ve all had those moments where it seems like any and all things that can go wrong, go wrong. But let’s take a page out of Britney’s 2007 book, get back up and bounce back to your bad ass self that you know you are.

Things are going to happen, break-ups, fights, disappointments at work, even something as small as forgetting to do something you had to do! Don’t you dare let your setback ruin your comeback. Whatever it is that has got you all out of sorts, let’s handle it and get you back to the strong confident person you know you are. As one of my favorite people told me, “put on your big girl jeggings and handle it.” So let’s do the damn thing:

1. Embrace How You Are Feeling

This is your time to get your emotions out. Get mad, get angry, get ridiculously upset, give yourself five minutes of emotional time. Whatever you are going through or dealing with, really feel it and all the emotions that go with it.

Honestly, get your emotions out. A little cry never hurt anyone and neither did getting really angry about a situation. Think about what happened, really reflect on your feelings, why you feel that way, and what caused it to get to this point. Really bask in the crappiness of what happened to you. We are not in the business of brushing emotions under the rug and forgetting about them. Own it.

Seriously, let every single emotion out. Rant to your friends. Write in your journal. Throw a hissy fit in your room. Don’t punch walls or people, let’s let out our emotions while controlling anger :). Do not hold back. Why is this important? Because embracing your emotions makes you more aware of what is going on. It helps spark a little fire under your butt to do something about it and make change.

Maybe that guy you were talking to ghosted you. That sucks. You really liked him and really thought it could go somewhere. Get mad. How could someone do something like that to you?! Maybe you were expecting a promotion at work and it went to someone else. Be angry, you worked hard every day and produced quality work every single day. Maybe a relationship ended that you didn’t expect to. Losing someone close to you sucks especially when you didn’t want it to happen. Be sad, it’s okay to cry about it.

You know what happens from owning your emotions and really thinking about what’s happened? It sparks action.

2. Identify What the Problem is

You got all the feels out of the way now, so let’s move on and figure out what exactly the problem is.

Confirmed – You know how you feel about what happened to you and it’s not a good feeling. Do not allow yourself to become a Negative Nancy. It’s easy to get lost in your emotions and start thinking that different aspects of your life are falling apart also (when they really aren’t). You might even start to nit-pick yourself and ask questions like “What if I didn’t do this?” or “What if I had done that?” What if questions are deadly, avoid those at all costs.

Let’s use the break-up as the example here. Break-ups suck, if you do the breaking up or get broken up with, there is still a lot of pain and emotions involved. Let’s not go Carrie Underwood in this and start keying the side of trucks.

First ask yourself – How exactly do you feel about what’s happened and why?

“Like trash” has been my go-to for when I feel negative emotions, but that’s not helping yourself. Think about each emotion and why.

Why are you sad? You’re losing one of your best friends are it’s hard to imagine life without them. You weren’t expecting this. You think you hurt someone you deeply care about’s feelings. You already miss the person.
Why are you angry? You can’t believe you poured so much into one relationship to have it fail. Some choice words might have been exchanged and you are heated about it.

Next, ask yourself – Does it make sense that I feel this way?

Let’s be honest with ourselves, sometimes the crisis handling stops here. I am 100% guilty of realizing my emotions are uncalled for and it’s pretty funny to look back and laugh about some things that I let get under my skin. But remember if you neglect to reflect on why you are feeling some sort of way, you might not ever have this realization. Go through each emotion and if you come to the conclusion that all those feels are justifiable, then:

Finally, ask yourself – What is it that is really bothering me?

Maybe you start to come to the conclusion that you are sad because this happened again. Rejection and failure are two pretty hard pills to swallow.

Maybe you understand that some of your actions, or theirs, were just unacceptable and the relationship was unhealthy. Letting go of something, even if it is not right for you, is tough to do.

Use these questions for whatever situation you find yourself in. Understand exactly what it is that is causing you to be upset.

3. Find the Silver Lining

I am such a firm believer that there is a positive that comes out of every crappy situation. Our girl Britney went from shaving her head in an emotional meltdown to releasing the #1 Billboard Album, Circus. She even etched that $30 million dollar Las Vegas residency deal a few years ago! If she could get through 2007, then you can damn right get through today.

As miserable as you may think a situation is, there is also some piece of positivity that can come from it. Change your perspective and realize that not everything is in the shitter. It’s difficult to do when you think everything is going up in flames in one big old dumpster fire around you, but there are so many good things happening that you might not even notice.

Try to come up for 5 things that make you happy, they can be anything! They might have nothing to do with the situation that just happened, but get brainstorming. Once you do this you might have a different perspective looking at the crap setback you have in your life. Look at the situation through a different pair on glasses, and it might open your eyes to seeing some new things.

Plan Your Comeback

Now that you looked through the original problem and can see that it is not as debilitating as it seemed. It’s time to get to action.


So let’s make the damn thing happen.

Pick your head up and get to work. No sulking here. You don’t get time back and the more time you wait the tougher it will be to get a grasp on what’s happened to you. The final few questions you need to ask yourself here are –

What am I going to accomplish?
Is this maintainable and something I can stick to?
How am I going to get this done?

With that I’ll leave you with something to think about. Only you know what you are really feeling and going through, don’t let anyone tell you that you should or should not be having a set of emotions. Because you are in control of how you feel, you are also in control of how you come back!

Remember that you are strong, confident, amazing human who is capable of incredible things. Don’t ever let some person or event take that from you.


I really hope this was helpful for you. I’ve been dealing with my own setback this past week and am starting to feel like I am getting back to being myself. I know I’m a far ways off and know that really getting over something takes time, but now is a great time to start and make the mindset change. – Tina


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