Need a little boost today? I’m right there with you! This is technically my last full week working for the year and there’s been tons of stress building up around that. Knowing that a lot of companies close around the 15th of December until the New Year – I figured it would be a good time to share some uplifting quotes.
Need a pick me up? These uplifting quotes are sure to help turn your day around.
A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.
If you want to fly, let go of everything that weighs you down.
Tough times never last, tough people do.
Robert H. Schuller
A little progress each day adds up to big results.
Those who move forward with a happy spirit will find that things will always work out.
Gordon B. Hinckley
When you focus on the good, the good increases
Change the world by being yourself.
Be somebody who makes everybody feel like somebody.
Strength grows in the moments when you think you can’t go on but you keep going anyway.
Trust in the timing of your life.
Believe in yourself and you will be unstoppable.
Growth is growth – no matter how small.
The same light you see in others is shining within you, too.
Fall seven times. Stand up eight.
You have always been enough.
Inhale confidence, exhale doubt.
Life is tough but so are you.
Be patient with yourself. Nothing in nature blooms all year.
Celebrate every win, no matter how small.
Wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful is going to happen.
Who remembers Britney Spears in 2007? I absolutely do. That, my friends, is coming damn near close to hitting rock bottom. Shaved head and all Britney climbed back up from the depths of darkness to one of the best comebacks the world has ever seen. As much as I hope no one ever gets near rock bottom, there’s sometimes other things that happen in our life that can send us into an emotional spiral.
Let’s admit it, life isn’t always butterflies and rainbows. We’ve all had those moments where it seems like any and all things that can go wrong, go wrong. But let’s take a page out of Britney’s 2007 book, get back up and bounce back to your bad ass self that you know you are.
Things are going to happen, break-ups, fights, disappointments at work, even something as small as forgetting to do something you had to do! Don’t you dare let your setback ruin your comeback. Whatever it is that has got you all out of sorts, let’s handle it and get you back to the strong confident person you know you are. As one of my favorite people told me, “put on your big girl jeggings and handle it.” So let’s do the damn thing:
1. Embrace How You Are Feeling
This is your time to get your emotions out. Get mad, get angry, get ridiculously upset, give yourself five minutes of emotional time. Whatever you are going through or dealing with, really feel it and all the emotions that go with it.
Honestly, get your emotions out. A little cry never hurt anyone and neither did getting really angry about a situation. Think about what happened, really reflect on your feelings, why you feel that way, and what caused it to get to this point. Really bask in the crappiness of what happened to you. We are not in the business of brushing emotions under the rug and forgetting about them. Own it.
Seriously, let every single emotion out. Rant to your friends. Write in your journal. Throw a hissy fit in your room. Don’t punch walls or people, let’s let out our emotions while controlling anger :). Do not hold back. Why is this important? Because embracing your emotions makes you more aware of what is going on. It helps spark a little fire under your butt to do something about it and make change.
Maybe that guy you were talking to ghosted you. That sucks. You really liked him and really thought it could go somewhere. Get mad. How could someone do something like that to you?! Maybe you were expecting a promotion at work and it went to someone else. Be angry, you worked hard every day and produced quality work every single day. Maybe a relationship ended that you didn’t expect to. Losing someone close to you sucks especially when you didn’t want it to happen. Be sad, it’s okay to cry about it.
You know what happens from owning your emotions and really thinking about what’s happened? It sparks action.
2. Identify What the Problem is
You got all the feels out of the way now, so let’s move on and figure out what exactly the problem is.
Confirmed – You know how you feel about what happened to you and it’s not a good feeling. Do not allow yourself to become a Negative Nancy. It’s easy to get lost in your emotions and start thinking that different aspects of your life are falling apart also (when they really aren’t). You might even start to nit-pick yourself and ask questions like “What if I didn’t do this?” or “What if I had done that?” What if questions are deadly, avoid those at all costs.
Let’s use the break-up as the example here. Break-ups suck, if you do the breaking up or get broken up with, there is still a lot of pain and emotions involved. Let’s not go Carrie Underwood in this and start keying the side of trucks.
First ask yourself – How exactly do you feel about what’s happened and why?
“Like trash” has been my go-to for when I feel negative emotions, but that’s not helping yourself. Think about each emotion and why.
Why are you sad? You’re losing one of your best friends are it’s hard to imagine life without them. You weren’t expecting this. You think you hurt someone you deeply care about’s feelings. You already miss the person. Why are you angry? You can’t believe you poured so much into one relationship to have it fail. Some choice words might have been exchanged and you are heated about it.
Next, ask yourself – Does it make sense that I feel this way?
Let’s be honest with ourselves, sometimes the crisis handling stops here. I am 100% guilty of realizing my emotions are uncalled for and it’s pretty funny to look back and laugh about some things that I let get under my skin. But remember if you neglect to reflect on why you are feeling some sort of way, you might not ever have this realization. Go through each emotion and if you come to the conclusion that all those feels are justifiable, then:
Finally, ask yourself – What is it that is really bothering me?
Maybe you start to come to the conclusion that you are sad because this happened again. Rejection and failure are two pretty hard pills to swallow.
Maybe you understand that some of your actions, or theirs, were just unacceptable and the relationship was unhealthy. Letting go of something, even if it is not right for you, is tough to do.
Use these questions for whatever situation you find yourself in. Understand exactly what it is that is causing you to be upset.
3. Find the Silver Lining
I am such a firm believer that there is a positive that comes out of every crappy situation. Our girl Britney went from shaving her head in an emotional meltdown to releasing the #1 Billboard Album, Circus. She even etched that $30 million dollar Las Vegas residency deal a few years ago! If she could get through 2007, then you can damn right get through today.
As miserable as you may think a situation is, there is also some piece of positivity that can come from it. Change your perspective and realize that not everything is in the shitter. It’s difficult to do when you think everything is going up in flames in one big old dumpster fire around you, but there are so many good things happening that you might not even notice.
Try to come up for 5 things that make you happy, they can be anything! They might have nothing to do with the situation that just happened, but get brainstorming. Once you do this you might have a different perspective looking at the crap setback you have in your life. Look at the situation through a different pair on glasses, and it might open your eyes to seeing some new things.
Plan Your Comeback
Now that you looked through the original problem and can see that it is not as debilitating as it seemed. It’s time to get to action.
So let’s make the damn thing happen.
Pick your head up and get to work. No sulking here. You don’t get time back and the more time you wait the tougher it will be to get a grasp on what’s happened to you. The final few questions you need to ask yourself here are –
What am I going to accomplish? Is this maintainable and something I can stick to? How am I going to get this done?
With that I’ll leave you with something to think about. Only you know what you are really feeling and going through, don’t let anyone tell you that you should or should not be having a set of emotions. Because you are in control of how you feel, you are also in control of how you come back!
Remember that you are strong, confident, amazing human who is capable of incredible things. Don’t ever let some person or event take that from you.
I really hope this was helpful for you. I’ve been dealing with my own setback this past week and am starting to feel like I am getting back to being myself. I know I’m a far ways off and know that really getting over something takes time, but now is a great time to start and make the mindset change. – Tina
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Throughout the past almost 7 weeks of staying at home because of Coronavirus, I’ve managed to do some thinking about pretty much everything. It’s not very often that I have this much time on my hands. If you follow me on instagram you know I’ve been on the go, and “stay at home” wasn’t really a thing for me. I just hit the road not as frequently as normal.
I’ve managed to travel between New Jersey, New York, Massachusetts, and New Hampshire. Don’t worry social distancing was practiced and plenty of hand sanitizer was used. Being able to “stay at home,” made me realize that I don’t really know where home is and that’s totally ok. I like exploring and seeing new places. In the crazy life, the most important thing is to be happy and I’m thankful for this pandemic for showing me that. Here’s how I’ll be focusing on happiness from here on out:
Get outside and enjoy the world as much as possible.
There is so much to see and so much to do. Staying inside for even one whole day is torturous. Whether it’s a walk around your neighborhood or a hike up in the mountains, getting outside is therapeutic.
Fresh air is an amazing thing. It’s easy to get lost in the day to day craziness of work or life and sooner rather than later you’ve been stuck inside for a week straight. I’ve managed to come up with over 15 places, near and far, that I have added to my to-do list for the year. I will make them all happen.
Life Lesson – Find what moves you and get going. For me its traveling, road tripping, and getting outside to see new places.
Appreciate the people around you.
You are the people you surround yourself with. That’s always been a fact that I’ve loved. Being around people who lift you up and make you the best you that you can be is so important.
From friends to family, this quarantine has allowed me to get closer to the best friends and family. I didn’t think that would be possible, but when it comes down to it your people keep you together. It’s been the new normal to find ways to get together and stay close when the world is literally out to make that impossible.
Life Lesson – Distance sucks, but it can’t break your closest relationships. Distance can be a tricky thing, but it also makes the heart grow fonder.
Don’t do things that take away from your happiness.
This is a huge thing for me. I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching lately about what I should be doing and what really makes me happy. I’ve started doubling down on putting my energy where I get the most happiness and removing it from areas that are taking from my happiness.
Just one small shift in energy can change your whole mood. Life is to be determined (see what I did there). There’s no point in being unhappy or chasing something that just doesn’t do it for you.
During this quarantine I made some pretty big life choices that can really alter the rest of my life. Wild stuff. In the end I know I’ll be better off than I was before because if there’s one thing you should focus on, it’s being happy.
Life Lesson – BE HAPPY! No explanation needed.
Do things for you.
It comes down to being happy, and I forget about that from time to time. Did it take a pandemic and a nationwide shut down for me to realize that? Yes. There’s always a rainbow after rain. That works as a metaphor, I think?
Regardless do things that make you happy. Life is too short to be with people who irritate you, to spend time at a job you don’t like, and to be doing things you don’t want to be doing.
If it’s 5 minutes a day or the whole 24 hours, do something you’ve always wanted to do. You’ve got time with this whole quarantine thing.
I heard the saying “You should never take a Monday off,” back when I was competitively bodybuilding. It’s safe to say I definitely do not body build anymore #fluffy. Regardless, I did learn quite a few lessons that carried over into many of other aspects of life. Never taking off a Monday might be the best piece of advice I’ve ever been given.
I don’t mean literally taking Monday off from work.
Taking off Monday isn’t about physically not going to work or showing up for your responsibilities that day. It’s about not letting your excuses win.
In bodybuilding, the workouts and diet are extremely strict. Every single day is calculated. One misstep and there goes the entire plan! 16 weeks worth of hard work would be ruined and future plans would be shifted and altered to make up for the time lost. One slip up can cause a severely negative chain reaction.
Coming off the weekend high, it’s difficult to reign back in focus and snap back into the grind. But you can’t allow yourself to fall off track, from whatever it is you are chasing. Just as easily as the chain reaction can be negative, it can also be positive.
If it’s being a bodybuilder, getting a promotion at work, or building a brand, you can’t let your excuses get the best of you and put your progress one day back from where it should be. Keep everything moving upwards and to the right, don’t take a Monday off.
If you skip Monday, you’ll want to skip the rest of the days of the week too.
Monday is typically the first day of the work week and is what drives the mood, or crashes it, for the rest of the week. If you allow yourself to procrastinate and push off what you need to do, chances are you’ll continue to push it off. It’s easier to give up than it is to put in the work and grind.
With bodybuilding, there are times when you can’t move because your body is too tired. The training and workouts are so rigorous and the caloric intake is so low, that there is barely enough energy to do simple tasks.
Common thoughts are, I’ll just sleep in this morning, If I don’t train today I’ll just eat less, One day off won’t kill me. If you sleep in one morning, you’ll want to sleep in the next. If you don’t train today and mess up your meal plan, your nutrition will be off. One day off may actually kill all your progress.
Take a lesson from all the body builders out there, you may not see it right away or notice a difference immediately, but if you skip what you need to be doing there will be side effects. What about if you don’t skip a Monday?
If you can make it through Monday, you can survive the rest of the week
Kick starting the week on a positive note and doing what you set out to do can light your fire to keep it going for the rest of the week. Mondays are typically the speed bump to the week. They’re tough because the weekend can be so fun and you are content with where you are. Being content can be deadly.
Completing a tough workout on Monday, for a bodybuilder, can define your whole week. If you put in the effort and time, it will be returned to you. Knowing you crushed the most difficult part of your week gets you ready to take on the remainder.
Getting over the Monday speed bump can lead to some next level productivity. Proving to yourself that you are stronger than your excuses can keep that momentum and positive energy moving for days to come.
In bodybuilding, one workout can change your whole physique. One more treadmill session can get you that much leaner. You won’t know what could be, unless you do it.
The one workout that you don’t skip and the mile that you ran even though your legs wanted to give out ultimately was the difference between placing in a show and not. Just that thought, knowing you accomplished something that seemed so difficult becomes the light you need to keep working and moving forward.
A positive Monday leads to a positive Tuesday and so on. Giving your best on Monday will make your Tuesday better, which will make your Wednesday better. Get it?
If you didn’t realize it yet your “Monday” can really be anything.
Tackling Monday isn’t just something for bodybuilders. Getting over your excuses and not caving into being mediocre and content can relay to life on so many different levels. Work, Education, Professional Development, Household Chores or Tasks, really anything can be your Monday. When you debate “skipping a Monday” you are asking yourself, “How bad do I really want this?”
Don’t wait another day to start working towards your goal, whatever it is. Wasted time can’t be brought back, so get going on the right foot and do what you set out to do. Whatever effort you put in will get you closer to your goal. Skipping is the only thing that can move you backwards.
You’ll run into days you’re too tired, unmotivated, and lazy. Don’t fall to your excuses. Remember to never skip a Monday.
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