Holiday Affirmations

25 Holiday Affirmations for December

Affirmations help align our being and can be a an incredible to tool. Affirmations help keep our thoughts and actions in sync to either claim more of what we need or release what we do not need. Affirmations are a great addition to a morning routine, nighttime routine, or a journaling practice.

There are affirmations for everything. Theres not a set list, you can get creative and create you own. No matter what phase of your life you may find yourself in, finding a few affirmations that align with how you are feeling and the direction you are going and using them daily can be a great practice to add to your self-love routine. During December, when all the holidays start popping up, it’s easy to get lost, stressed, and feel tension and anxiety. Using Affirmations that align with this time of year can help bring calmness to your day to day.

Take these Holiday Affirmations with you as the holiday season approaches. While this season can bring excitement and joy it can also bring stress and tension. Take what resonates with you and leave what isn’t aligned.

Holiday Affirmations

I am ready to receive love from my family and friends all season long.

I am grateful for all things good in my life.

Being thankful fills my soul with gratitude.

I will put all negativity aside to enjoy the moments with family and friends.

I am a bright light that can be seen in darkness that cannot be put out.

I do not need to receive gifts or money to be thankful.

I will not let small things get under my skin when spending extended time with family.

I am not afraid of setting boundaries and enforcing them.

I invite gratitude into my life and look forward to feeling its warm over months to come.

My love and gratitude for others is not hidden. I am not afraid to speak my feelings of gratitude to others.

I release my holiday anxiety and stress and am open to receiving love and joy.

Releasing what no longer serves me only leaves more space for what is meant for me.

I embrace change and look forward to what awaits me in the future.

I do not let the words of others affect me. I stay calm in uneasy moments.

I am open to receiving love from all those closest to me.

The holiday season is my reminder to reflect on the love I feel for others.

I am thankful for all acts of love and gratitude and will pass on the energy to others.

Sharing the holiday spirit and joy fills my heart with warmth and love.

I am full of gratitude for my family and all that I have in this life.

The warmth I feel in my heart is strengthened during the holiday season.

I am willing to slow down and reflect during the colder months.

I release any memories from the past that bring back negative emotions. I am open to creating new positive memories to replace the old.

This holiday season I am grateful for love ones living and passed.

I am not afraid to leave an uncomfortable situation.

I search for gratitude every day and welcome it into my life.

Journaling Your Affirmations

Affirmations can be spoken, written, or both! I personally enjoy writing down my affirmations multiple times every morning. Not only are I speaking them to myself, but I am writing them on paper. Having a journal that speaks to you and motivates you to pick it up and write is something that can evolve your practice with affirmations. Writing down all that you are grateful for before you write down your affirmations is a great way to raise your vibration and be in a positive mindset. This is so powerful when using affirmations! I’ve curated a list of you great journals that I hope can inspire you to start journaling with your affirmations.

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Winter Affirmations for Self Love

Affirmations help us align with our thoughts and begin to consciously (or subconsciously) act to achieve our goals or think a certain way. Imagine being reprogrammed and shifting how you behave based on the reprogramming. Affirmations don’t quite work like that or that quick, but affirmations help us feel emotions that will steer us in the direction that we desire to go.

With winter on the horizon and as the calendar flips to the second week of December, here are some winter inspired Affirmations to take into the cold season.

Winter Affirmations for Self Love

  1. No matter the weather outside, I will keep warm and love in my heart.
  2. There is beauty to be found in every situation.
  3. I will protect my energy and my boundaries.
  4. I am letting go of everything that no longer serves me.
  5. I recognize nature’s season of rebirth and will let it guide me in my own life.
  6. I am open to and embrace the power of transformation.
  7. I am eagerly walking into the new adventures that await me.
  8. What is meant to be will be, what is not, will pass me by.
  9. I am overflowing with abundance.
  10. I will be present and grounded as the weather around me changes.
  11. It is ok to put myself and my needs first.
  12. Slowing down is ok, there is not need to rush.
  13. I embrace the cycle of change that it happening around me.
  14. I am grateful for where I am and hopeful for where I am going.
  15. I will remain steady as change and uncertainty are inevitable.
  16. I am empowered by the elements and their beauty.
  17. It is okay to not be productive.
  18. I feel strong amidst the changes of the seasons.
  19. I am abundant with light and energy that I carry with me every day.
  20. I am not afraid to put myself and my emotions first.
  21. Embracing change is what allows me to grow.
  22. I carry the brightness with me in my heart even when darkness is around.
  23. I love fearlessly.
  24. What I have is exactly what I need.
  25. I feel healthy and happy in my own skin.
  26. Even if I feel like I behind, I am exactly where I need to be.
  27. My thoughts are positive and carry me through tough times.
  28. I embrace transformation and all that awaits me.
  29. I an open to the beautiful changes that are happening in my life.
  30. Taking a moment to reflect and slow down is okay.

Journaling Your Affirmations

Affirmations can be spoken, written, or both! I personally enjoy writing down my affirmations multiple times every morning. Not only are I speaking them to myself, but I am writing them on paper. Having a journal that speaks to you and motivates you to pick it up and write is something that can evolve your practice with affirmations. Writing down all that you are grateful for before you write down your affirmations is a great way to raise your vibration and be in a positive mindset. This is so powerful when using affirmations! I’ve curated a list of you great journals that I hope can inspire you to start journaling with your affirmations.

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Winter Self Care Practice Ideas

Winter Self Care Practice Ideas

Between the sun setting at the ungodly hour of 4:30pm in New York and temperatures steadily dropping, it can be easier than ever to fall into a seasonal funk or depression. Starting and ending work in the pitch black does a number on your serotonin levels, in a bad way. That is why it is extra important to continue or expand on your self care or self love practice as winter sets in.

It’s about taking a few moments every day for yourself and not forgetting that you need to invest some time back in yourself! When it gets colder, being lazy can be an easy habit to fall into. Without even knowing it you’re 8 episodes in on Love is Blind and its 10pm and you barely took 100 steps in the day… Not speaking from personal experiences or anything.

As the weather shifts to full blown winter mode, friendly reminder – it’s still fall, putting a little extra effort in your self care practice can only breed positive things! Here are some ideas to keep your self care practice alive in the winter :

Winter Self Care Practices

Pick Up a New Book

Get lost in a romance novel or fill your brain with positivity with self love book, why not even learn about the past by diving into a historical documentary? Take the time to sit by yourself and lose yourself into the world that the author curated. Reading not only keeps your mind sharp, but it can be a great exercise to start decompressing after a busy day. Reading is a great activity for a night time routine.

Move Your Body in the Morning

Don’t get stuck to your bed or sofa during the winter, even though it’s incredibly easy to grab a fuzzy blanket and hunker down for the day when it gets chilly. Take advantage of the sun being up in the morning, throw on a jacket and take a walk outside. It’s important to take in the sunlight when you can – even if it’s an over cast day, going outside and breathing in the fresh air can be an absolute game changer.

Hot Chocolate Dates with Friends

The laziness can fully set in and next thing you know you’re lonely and haven’t checked-in with your friends in days! The days can all blend together in the winter it you allow them to. Staying in touch with friends and planning hot chocolate dates or Christmas Movie nights can help pick up everyone’s spirits when they may be silently sinking into a seasonal funk. Self Care can be spending time alone, but it can also be spending time with ones you love the most as well!

Pick Up a Winter Hobby

Continually growth propels us internally and can be a driver for learning new skills or activities. When I hear winter hobbies I immediately think skiing, snowboarding, and even snowshoeing – which are all great! I highly recommend trying them all if you have not. They are readily available during the winter and gives you something to do on even the days when there’s a snowstorm! If you’re not ready for braving the elements in the cold, there’s plenty of indoor winter hobbies to explore – indoor pickle ball, craft classes at AC Moore, indoor rock climbing, and more. Keeping up a certain level of activity during the winter is an ultimate self care practice!


This is a self care practice that sees not season! Continuing your meditation practice throughout the winter and year round is a great way to show yourself some extra self love. We value movement and activity, which is wildly valuable, but exercising the mind is just as important. Using meditation as a tool for self care can be beneficial in many ways – it can help combat anxious thoughts, depressing thoughts, mental roadblocks, and can be used to ground ourselves when we let our minds wander and get lost in thought.

Phone a Friend

It’s easy to isolate ourselves in the winter – “it’s too cold to go outside” “I’ll meet up with them next time” “Did you see the storm that’s coming” – but it’s important to not let ourselves be stranded alone on an island. Even if you aren’t feeling up to getting outside or going out with friend, there’s not reason to not pick up the phone and call someone! Having a facetime or hour long conversation with a friend can fill your social bucket without having to leave your home. Practicing self care does not mean you have to be alone or an individual activity, keep yourself involved with your people!

5 Reasons To Practice Self-Love

You are your best friend There’s one person who will always be in your corner no matter what, that’s yourself. Practicing self-love does not take hours, its a couple minutes or even seconds out of your day to give back to yourself. At the end of the day you’re the only one who truly has…

Get Creative

Keep your brain healthy and maybe find a new passion by picking up a new art project or craft. There are plenty of places to find inspiration online like Etsy and Pinterest, but even taking a trip to your local Michaels or Hobby Lobby can spark some ideas to get your creativity flowing. Instead of sitting around watching TV or scrolling through social media, you can make some incredible art! Who knows this one time winter hobby could become a life long practice (just like self care!).

Online Yoga

Starting a new form of exercise can be intimidating, even stepping into a Yoga studio with all the zen and calm vibes can be scary at first. To kick start this practice, that incorporates breathing techniques, stretching, and meditation, all you need is a yoga mat and YouTube! There are amazing creators that post many videos on different Yoga practices that you can try in the comfort of your own home. The beauty of trying Yoga on YouTube is that it is free! It can also build up your skill set so you understand some basic flows and then the idea of going to a yoga studio is not so daunting after all. It’s a perfect self care practice to continue after the snow melts and the temperature rises back up.

Start a Blog

I can say from experience that starting this blog has been an amazing self care practice. It has created an outlet for me to be creative but also share my stories and even make friends. I do need to be more consistent with posting, but sometimes life gets busy and I need to prioritize other things. Regardless I know my blog is always here and I find comfort in sitting down and writing about what’s on my mind. Maybe a starting a blog will be beneficial for you too!

Daily Practices That Promote Self Love

With the warm summer weather in full swing and good vibes all around, it seems like a pretty good time to add in some daily practices that promote self-love! Check out some super simple ways to add a little bit of self-love into your daily routine this summer, and beyond! Meditation Meditation is a great…

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8 Ways to Help Reduce Anxiety and Anxious Feelings

Believe it or not anxious feelings and anxiety are not something that is rare… In fact many people battle with anxiety every day. Anxiety can come at different levels and can cause a ray of emotions and physical effectives, it is very different for each person and each situation. Just because you don’t experience anxiety like someone else, does not mean that you are better or worse off. It just means that you process these emotions differently.

Regardless of how you experience anxiety, there are some ways to help reduce anxiety. Again, it is different for every person and this list serves as suggestions to try to help reduce anxiety and anxious feelings. These all may work for you, or none of the work – but navigating anxiety is a learning experience at its finest. Learning what works, what doesn’t, what helps, what doesn’t, what increases feelings, what decreases feelings, is all part of each individual’s journey and for everyone’s own discovery. So wherever you are, I hope this list can help provide some value and some help in reducing anxiety.

8 Ways to Reduce Anxiety

Begin a Meditation Practice

Meditation is a way to disconnect from what surrounds us and reconnect with our physical being. Removing distracts and disconnecting with what doesn’t serve you works wonders on an anxious mind. Practicing this disconnection can help aid in reducing anxiety because you become more aware our your physical being and in touch with why certain emotions are present. Your body reacting in certain ways, anxiety included, is your body’s way of communicating with you. When you disconnect to understand the underlying reasoning you can being to release some of the anxious tendencies.

Release Emotions Instead of Holding onto Them

Holding in past emotions, from all experiences, aid in anxious feelings. Whether we are aware of it or not of past experience shape us and until we acknowledge all emotions and the feelings/behaviors that are tied to them, we won’t be able to fully embrace life in the now. Anxiety plays a role as we are constantly nervous or scared to walk down roads or experience pain that we have felt before. Releasing these negative emotions to make room for positivity can help reduce anxiety and also makes rooms for more positive energy and experiences to fill the void that these negative emotions once filled.

Add a Morning Routine to Your Day

Starting your day with a plan, a routine, creates structure. For me personally, the unknown is a major driver of anxiety. Not know what is next or what to do is a trigger, especially when I have a lot of things on my plate. I worry that I can’t balance them all, and cue all the anxious feelings. Adding a morning routine provides a pattern of structure to follow, every morning the routine is the same and sets your day up on the right foot. This routine can incorporate daily tasks, self-love practice, hydration, physical activity, really anything that helps you focus on yourself and put yourself in the best headspace to start the day. Morning Routines do not prevent bad days, but they sure help create more good days!

Get Active

Physical Activity is known for producing serotonin. Positive energy and physical activity are was to reduce anxiety. Physical activity can be anything from a brisk walk to running a marathon. For some people it’s an hour long gym session and for other’s it’s a five minute walk during their lunch break at work. The point here is you do not need to compare your physical activity level to anyone else’s and any level physical activity and getting active can help reduce anxiety.

Daily Entries in Your Bullet Journal

Journalling is a practice that has helped more than just my anxiety, but has been vital in my own self-love & spiritual journey. Bullet Journalling is even more valuable because of the minimal time investment and lack of intense short. It’s brief, concise, and to the point. A three line entry will do the trick. Journalling is a great way to acknowledge and get in touch with your emotions, including anxiety. Acknowledging what causes your anxious emotions is the first step to addressing them. Once you are aware of your triggers, you can work to identify what has worked in reducing them and even what increases them – A bullet journal is a great place to document this information!

Make To-Do Lists for the Next Day

Those hard to fall asleep nights are usually cause by anxious feelings and can be tackled by simply getting thoughts to paper on the next day. Similar to a morning routine, writing out a to-do list for the next day before you go to bed is a great way to build structure. It can help reduce those anxious thoughts a fear of forgetting items or tasks that need to be done. I always feel that a written to-do list is more effective than writing one on your phone, but both are great options to help ease and calm your mind before sleep.

Use Affirmations

A great body builder, Kai Greene, once said “thoughts become things” and I couldn’t believe in this more. When dealing with anxious thoughts and anxiety, it’s important to remember that you are in control of your own thoughts, which in turn means you are in control of what becomes from your thoughts. That can be positive energy that is needed in all facets of live, motivation that’s needed to accomplish your goals, or even working on your physical appearance. Using positive affirmations that support abundance, success, self-love, and positivity, can help shape your thoughts and reduce anxious feelings.

Talk to Your Friends & Family

This ties to one that was mentioned before, but it is worth mentioning twice. Your friends and family all love you and support you, they are you pillars that are there to help. If you are experiencing negative emotions and anxiety, talk to them about it. Opening up about how you feel to a trusted source is therapeutic in its own right, and helps you put words to the emotions that you are feeling, which helps you address what they are, how they got there, and what you can do to help minimize their presence. It can also be a relatable conversation – People tend to hold in anxious thoughts because they feel alone, but at the end of the day every person often experiences some degree on anxious emotions. Talking to friends and family can make you feel that you are not in this fight alone, they can offer some great pieces of advice also!

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Underrated Self Care Activities

Underrated Self-Care Activities Anyone Can Do

When you think self-care, you may think a spa day filled with a 60 minute massage and champagne or a long gym session with lifting weights and cardio. Self Care is not as invasive as you think it is, even small tiny changes can start a ripple effect of positivity in your life. They key is to doing things for yourself, and for nobody else! Failing to practice self-care can lead to headaches, stomach pains, difficulty sleeping and even focusing at work. Self Care is vital to include in your daily routine, no matter how little it plays a big role in your overall physical and emotional well-being.

Self-Care is something that you have to choose to do, no one can make you love yourself. It’s not only a change in behavior, but a change in your mental health. When you prioritize yourself, amazing things can happen. Here is a list of some underrated self-care activities that anyone can do!

Revisit and Edit The Accounts Your Follow on Social Media

The content you ingest every single day directly affects how you feel. Sometimes we are not in control of how our friends, family, co-workers/bosses, and people we interact with engage with us, but you do control what shows up on your social media feeds. Remove people who no longer provide value to you, this can be ex-friends, celebrities, exes, anyone! You control what you are exposed to and who you follow on social media, make sure its what you want to be seeing.

Clean Your Space

There’s this new trend on TikTok showing “depression rooms,” which are wildly messy bedrooms and living spaces. I had one of these on high school, and even college. Just clothes everywhere and no will power to clean even though you so desperate want to have a clean space. It’s crazy how as you grow you learn about why certain behaviors were present in your life… Take 5-10 minutes a devote time to making your living space orderly. Being proud of where you exist is a vital piece to the puzzle, and is a great way to practice self-care. This could be totally re-organizing a room or simply just shifting around furniture.

Get Your Nails Done

The 20 minutes of sitting down, and getting a brief pampering make you feel like a queen.

Phone a Friend

Chat with a friend and catch up with someone you love. Even if you think it’s been way too long, having a conversation with someone you love can help you disconnect from what if holding you back and reconnect with things that excite you. Friends are also amazing shoulders to lean on in good and bad moments. You never know, you may call a friend to share some good news, but they need a good vent sessions. The self-care can work both ways!

Listen to a Motivational Podcast

The best thing about podcasts is that you can listen to them at any time. Throwing a motivational podcast on, or one that teaches you a new skill, while driving from work to home or going to/from errands can kill 2 birds with one stone. Even if it is only 5 or 10 minutes, you are still choosing to better yourself in that time! 5 to 10 minutes every day can add up to substantial time.

Reflect On Your Day in a Journal

Reflecting on your day – what you did, how you felt, who you engaged with, who you wish you had the chance to engage with, what’s left to be done, what it all makes you feel like now… These are all things that can help you prioritize your time in the future and can help you devote time in the places that would be best for your own mental health. It’s difficult to learn how to make lifestyle adjustments if we don’t take the time to sit down and reflect on our emotions.

Practice Mindful Breathing

Take a few breaths to reconnect with yourself and release what no longer serves you.

Get Outside

The power of nature and being outside is very underrated. Existing in the fresh air and taking in all the energy around you can help make a hectic stressful day into a light and enjoyable one. Taking time to walk around, or walk, or bike, or skate (see how many options there are?) is keeping you active and giving time back to yourself. Prioritizing yourself can be through activities or by just spending some alone time in different settings.

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Practice Self Love

5 Reasons To Practice Self-Love

You are your best friend

There’s one person who will always be in your corner no matter what, that’s yourself. Practicing self-love does not take hours, its a couple minutes or even seconds out of your day to give back to yourself. At the end of the day you’re the only one who truly has your own back. Don’t ever forget that!

You are capable of doing whatever you set your mind to

It’s incredible how the pieces just fall together when you look inward. Practicing self-love can help you accomplish all the goals you have, big or small. You truly are capable of doing whatever you set your mind too, and when you fully believe that you can, good things start to happen. Don’t let any negative talk cloud your vision.

You deserve the amount of love that you give to others

Don’t neglect to fill your own cup. You are worthy of all the love that you give others. Don’t settle for anything less than that!

The world deserves the best you

In this crazy world we live in, the only thing we can control is ourselves. Being our personal best self only brings positive vibes to the people around us. When you become your best self you’re capable of amazing things, you deserve that and so does the world!

You attract the energy you give off

If you think you’re going to trip and fall, chances are you’re going to trip and fall. If you’re sending out negative energy, more negativity is bound to come your way. If you’re sending out hopeful positive messages and energies, you’ll receive that back. Practicing self love is a great way to attract good things to your life.

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Insight Timer Meditations for Relaxation

My Favorite Meditations on Insight Timer

I am about two years into my meditation journey, and I really can’t imagine my life without it. There’s something incredibly soothing when you are able to take a few minutes to yourself and enjoy the calmness. In a world full of hustle and bustle and craziness, releasing stagnant energy and basking in the calmness around you really does wonders.

I’ve learned a lot about myself through my meditation practice. Allowing yourself to connect to the energy around you and disconnect from what no longer serves you allows you to move forward on whatever path you choose. Whether you are looking to connect to yourself on a deeper level or are on an intense spiritually journey, meditating is an incredible practice!

If you are new to meditating, I am excited for you! I hope that these inspiring you to settle your mind and search within. If you are a seasoned veteran, I hope these can provide some new guided meditations to keep in your back pocket.

First things first, I am not affiliated with Insight Timer in any capacity. I found Insight Timer when I first began meditating regularly and have used it since then for daily practice. If you are also on the app (or just downloaded it) let’s be friend! @teenafey (no shocker there).

These meditations are my tried and true favorites. Bookmark this page and come back to it time and time again to try out some new meditations on Insight Timer. Some are guided and others are music that plays a specific frequency. So settle down on your meditation pillow or yoga mat, sync up with your breathing and let your meditation practice begin!

Best Meditations on Insight Timer

Morning Ritual Jason McGrice

Cord Cutting Practice Avalon Starlight

Toxic Energy Cleanse Melody Litton

Healing Darkness For Sleep Jennifer Piercy

Open to Your Soulmate Jason McGrice

Cut Energetic Cords Renee Wilkinson

Love Energy Healing Session: Reiki For Sleep Ellen Mouton

Cleansing Cord Cutting Meditation & Visualization Jocelyn Valencia

Melting Stress, Fear & Anxiety Jason McGrice

Best Music on Insight Timer

417Hz Clears Away All Negative Energy Shrine of Enlightenment

Sacral Chakra Tibetan Singing Bowls Sonic Yogi

432Hz Heart Chakra Healing While You Sleep Healing Dawn

555Hz Positive Change, Deep Healing & Manifestation Simon Rose

Third Eye Chakra Singing Bowls Sonic Yogi

Deep Sleep Music – 1.5Hz Binaural Beats For Sleep Aaron Darrell

I hope you enjoy these Insight Timer meditations as much as I do!

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Daily Practices That Promote Self Love

With the warm summer weather in full swing and good vibes all around, it seems like a pretty good time to add in some daily practices that promote self-love! Check out some super simple ways to add a little bit of self-love into your daily routine this summer, and beyond!


Meditation is a great way to spend some time getting to know yourself. It’s also a great start or end, to your day. Giving yourself 10-15 minutes, or more, to decompress and remove yourself from the craziness that every day holds. Even if you fall asleep, you’re giving a few minutes thats meant for you and only. Nothing promotes self-love like a little me-time.

Apps like Insight Timer, totally free App and not sponsored in any way, is a great way to kick start your meditation journey. You can navigate through pre-determined sections like sleep, productivity at work, managing stress. It even have a fun tracker that shows you how long you’ve meditated for and consecutive days meditated.

Skincare Routine

Winding down your night, which starts pretty damn early in the winter, with a quick skincare routine is the perfect way to add in a little bit of self love. Whether its a a face mask, which you can grab for a couple bucks from your local CVS, or setting aside 10 minutes for some face rolling with your amazing rose quartz face roller, implementing a quick skincare routine can spark instant self love but also get your skin glowing!

Limiting Time on Social Media

Social Media has its pluses and minuses, especially when we’re talking about self-love. Posting a selfie if you want to post a selfie because you love your outfit is a great way to build some confidence. But social media’s down side is the constant comparison to others and unattainable beauty standards that are postered all over the applications. There is nothing real about social media anymore because all posts and content are insanely manufactured, even ones that don’t appear that way. Cutting time on social media gives back some time in the day to spend with yourself! Instead on comparing yourself to an Instagram Model, go take a self love meditation! I challenge you to check the screen time tracker on your phone to see how much time you spend on social media applications. How much time can you give back to yourself?

Cleaning Your Living Space

There is a very different feeling when you enter your house when it is messy vs. when it is clean. As a super OCD organized person at work, I sometimes let the messiness get carried away at home. Staying on top of your living space directly relates to how you feel. If you live in a cluttered space, your mind will be a cluttered space. Taking a few minutes every day to organize and clean you living space can do wonders for your mood. I’m not saying deep clean you entire home daily, put clean up after yourself, don’t let the laundry pile get crazy, and don’t forget to fold laundry after you do it. These tasks take such a small amount of time and you will thank yourself for it later!

Hot Girl Walks

Yup, hot girl walks are a thing and I am all about them. Especially with working from home, getting outside and breathing in some fresh air is a great way to give back to yourself! Getting outside a walking is not only great exercise but gives you alone time away from work or stress at home to just be with yourself. When I go on walks, I will call my friends who live out of state! It’s a great way to catch up with them and to stay involved in each others lives even though we live far apart. Hot Girl Walks can kill two birds with one stone – exercise and quality time with friends or family!

Picking Up a Creative Hobby

As work becomes more demanding in our lives and our focus goes towards making money to survive and pay bills, we constantly forget about what drives our creativity. Picking up a hobby is one thing, but giving ourselves a creative outlet is another! Whether it’s a blog, like this one, or painting, crocheting, writing poems, having a creative hobby can be an escape from everyday. It also lets us use different parts of our mind that we may not use so regularly. A creative hobby can bring joy! Try picking up a hobby that you enjoyed which you were young. I am a big coloring book fan myself, lord knows it’s the only artistic thing I can do.


Journaling is a great outlet. Some days you can write a novel, others a few sentences. Writing how you feel, what you accomplished, what you did and more can be therapeutic. Your journal also acts as a place to look back on memories and see how far you have come. You can also get a laugh or two when reliving certain memories. There’s a lot of great blank journals out there, but also some guided journals with prompts. Both are great options, but at the end of the day if you begin journaling it’s important to pick a journal that speaks to you and motivates you to open it every day to write an entry.

Wherever you are on your journey to self-love, these daily practices can help carry you along!

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Reclaiming Your Power 101

Sometimes it takes getting knocked down to rock bottom to truly realize how often and freely you give your power away. When I say power, I don’t mean control, mentally or physically, I mean your peace and who you are.

Whether it is through relationships (both good and bad), work environments, expectations from family, anything really, we as humans can tend to lose ourselves and who we are by giving most, if not all, of our power to others (people, places, or things). If I’m confusing you with these winded explanations, let me break it down short and sweet :

Reclaiming your power is about loving and trusting in yourself.

Think about all the times you’ve allowed your thoughts, values, or goals to shift because of an outside influence. Or maybe even saw a future, with a person, or at a company, that was swiftly taken away from you. Those moments, when you feel lost, when your heart is in the bottom of your stomach, and you don’t know where to turn next, are when you need to reclaim you, your power, the most. Your path and life will change, that is inevitable. Staying true to who you are and even learning who you are, through tough times, when you feel powerless, is what reclaiming your power truly means.

Before getting into some ways to reclaim your power, it is important to acknowledge what you are feeling and why you are feeling it. Identifying why you feel lost and why you may be out of sorts can require some deep soul searching, but it is necessary. Was it getting let go at a job? A breakup? Fight with a friend? Understanding what is causing these low-level emotions is the first step. Next Step? Feel them.

Feel every single emotion. Name everything thing you are feeling. Sadness. Resentment. Disappointment. Regret. Relief. Anger. Then think about how you feel each of those. The knot in your stomach. The rock in your throat. That piercing pain above your eyebrow in your brain. The heaviness in your legs. Now tie those intense feelings to the words. That knot is your stomach tightens up when you are sad or missing someone. That intense headache is when you are disappointed in yourself. Whatever it is for you, identify it. and feel it. Feel the low-level emotions! Do not sweep these under the rug, because these feelings aren’t “bad” feelings, consider them signs. When you start to connect the “gut” feelings to the emotions or the situation, you’ll start to listen to your body when it is screaming “no” to you. You’ll start to get what your body has been trying to tell you all along. Once you are in tune with yourself, then you can start the internal work to reclaim your power. You got this.

Embrace Failure

Not everything is going to be perfect, and that is ok. Understanding, and I mean truly understanding, that not everything will be sunshine and rainbows is the key to embracing failure. In order to reclaim your power, its important to redefine “failure” as just a shift in direction from your ideal plan. Got that job you love and look forward to every day, but then there is a re-org and that position is no longer available? Not a failure. Just a shift. Maybe you’ll find an even better position with better pay. Just because one thing ends, doesn’t mean that life is over.

At the end of the day “failure” teaches us lessons. Teachable moments aren’t just for a classroom, they are for everyday life. Failing does not mean the end of the road, it means something new is on the horizon. Reclaiming your power can start when you start seeing a “failure” as a pivot to a new opportunity or new experience, there’s really no limits to where life will progress to.

Saying No

Say no – frequently and often, if necessary.

The power in saying no is extraordinary. Honestly, saying yes when you do not want to say yes to something can cause a slew of unhealthy chain reactions. The mental, and sometimes physical, stress of people-pleasing can be so incredibly heavy. Saying yes to everything, is quite literally, putting everybody before yourself. Remember, reclaiming your power is really putting yourself, your health and thoughts, first. Are there times when you have to say yes, 100%. I’m not encouraging you to say “No” whenever you are asked to do something, its always nice to go above and beyond for someone or step out of your comfort zone every once in a while, but more to set limitations and think about what you truly want to do and, more importantly, are capable of doing.

Do you want to go out to dinner with that guy you met last night at a bar? Not really, but he bought you a few drinks and it is at a really nice restaurant you’ve always wanted to try, so you might as well say yes and go. Nope. If you aren’t feeling something, say no, it could be a hard no or a “no, but.” Think about it : That dinner you said yes to, when you really wanted to say no, seems like a hassle because you really wanted to stay in tonight and lay low get some extra work done. You’ve been sleeping like crap and really wanted to get to bed early in hopes of feeling refreshed the next morning. Work has been super stressful since it is Q4, so you wanted to spend some extra time on the project you’ve been assigned while just relaxing with some much needed alone time. But you went to the dinner anyway, felt bad that he might think you aren’t interested if you said no, so you didn’t rest like you needed or get the work done. That dinner you said yes to, made you incredibly stressed out at work the next day because you had 3 client calls and no time to complete the tasks you wanted to be done with already but didn’t have the chance to finish because you had to get ready to go out last night. Not to mention the splitting headache thats a caused from the combination of a slight wine hangover and lack of sleep. You’re now staying at work late to get work done, but things keep piling on your plate. Your stress level just keeps rising because you don’t know when are how you’ll be able to catch up. Totally random, relatable, and super broad example, but see how one people-pleasing “yes” can turn into a landslide of events in multiple aspects of your life? It really is ok to say No. You’ve probably experienced much more severe instances than this one, but I’m sure you get it.

“Saying No” not only helps you reclaim your power, but it can help bring happiness, define your path, and provide you with clear vision on where you, and only you, want to see your life heading.

Stay Away From Toxic People Who Disrupt Your Peace

Say. It. Louder. For. The. People. In. The. Back.

This is going to be short sweet and to the point. Seeing the best in every person is very important, but what’s more important is identifying when someone is no good, or no longer good, for you and your life. If someone is sucking energy from you, it is ok to stay away from them. Sometimes you notice this right away, other times it stays hidden for sometime. It can be difficult, like extremely difficult, to cut ties with people, but in order to reclaim your power, you need to set boundaries with people and sometimes that means parting ways. Respect yourself, your energy, and most importantly your peace.

Quick Sidenote : You can be toxic for someone else, too. Internally think about what you are bringing to the table and begin to identify your own toxic behaviors. Self Improvement is always necessary. If someone leaves you, or something happens that you did not initiate, part of taking back your power, is acknowledging that maybe you were not meant to be in that situation. Maybe this plot twist you didn’t see coming is leading you to some of the best things in your life.

Be Alone

You do not have to always associate with something else. A person, place or thing. Not everyone has a place in your life. You do not have a place in everyone’s life. There will be times when you seem to be charting into unknown waters, alone. That’s okay. It can be scary, but again, that’s okay.

Reclaiming your power is not a giant happy party, going through this sucks. Like big time, sucks. In full transparency, learning who you are, what you are capable of, and getting over a painful event is not easy. Yes, this is a super light-hearted and fun blog post, but we need to call a spade a spade and it really is difficult. If you are embarking on this journey to reclaim your power, I commend you. I am excited for you and hope at the end you rise as the person you are meant to be.

Embrace the suck. Embrace being alone. Embrace finding yourself. Embrace trusting yourself. When no one is next to you to guide you or hold your hand, you are the only person who can lead. You and you alone, with your intuition and whatever spiritual wisdom you believe in, are it. This is when you really discover who you are, what you need, and what you want. You can also find out who is meant to be in your life and who isn’t, but that comes from really connecting with, understanding, and loving yourself.

Reclaim Your Power

At the end of the day, the point is to not let a situation or person take and maintain keeping your power. Your power is yours, don’t let it escape you. Letting a situation or person have power over you is what we want to avoid. That painful breakup may seem like the end, it’s not. That business you started going under, it’s not the end. The minute you start to maintain your power in whatever situation life throws at you, really shows how much you have healed.

If you are currently on the healing journey, and reclaiming your power, I am excited for you. Healing is truly an incredible thing and is something many people brush over lightly. To truly heal and reclaim your power is rewarding. As you continue on your healing journey, always remember to:

  1. Maintain The Standards That You Set
  2. Embrace Your True Authenticity
  3. Never Settle
  4. Truly and Entirely, Protect Your Energy
  5. Allow for Set Backs and Continued Growth

Good Luck. You Got This.

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Self Love New Years Resolutions For 2021

Hey I’m back! I took a bit of time off around Christmas to enjoy some quality time with my family. As much as I love blogging and being active on Social Media – it really is tough to balance time. But we are back and there is only a week left until the new year! 2021 has some pretty interesting shoes to fill after 2020.

New Years Resolutions don’t have to be crazy goals – although it is nice to set a reach goal that you can work towards. Typically these are the resolutions that fall apart a few weeks after they are started. New Years Resolutions are a great thing to use as a stepping stone to get your year off to a great start. Trust me, I get that you can make a decision at any point during the year to start on a new path – but there’s something about making a change on January 1st that really sets the tone for the entire year.

After 2020, the dumpster fire that it really was, it’s time to practice some self love. Heading into 2021, the goal is to go up from here. That starts with getting yourself to a good place. Practicing self-love is the way to do just that! Check out some New Years resolutions that promote self-love.

Self Care New Years Resolutions

Don’t go to sleep with make-up on.
Implement a daily skincare routine.
Make your bed every morning.
Implement a night time routine.
Write in a journal daily.
Use daily affirmations.
Get 8 hours of sleep every night.
Limit your screen time every day (1, 2, 3, 4 hours a day).
No social media on the weekends.
Put your phone away an hour before bedtime every night.

New Years Resolutions For Being Active

Work out 3 times a week.
Take at least 10,000 steps every day.
Sign up for a gym membership (and use it).
Start a new workout routine.
Run/Walk 1, 2, 3+ miles a day.
Sign up for a 5k and train for it!
Start a yoga practice, and practice daily.
Commit to at least 30 minutes of exercise every day.
Sign up for obe fitness at home workouts.
Participate in a fitness challenge – ex. Fit by Katy Winter Challenge

Nutrition New Years Resolutions

Cut sugar (in small doses) from your diet.
Drink at least 1 gallon of water a day.
Have 3 complete meals a day.
Learn your macro nutrients and stick to them.
Add greens/veggies to every meal.
Give yourself 2 cheats every week.
Stop eating fast food.

Mindset New Years Resolutions

Start a gratitude journal.
Create and update a vision board with your future goals.
Write down 3 good things every day – one for health, one for wealth, one for happiness
Eliminate negative self-talk.
Set 3 goals for the year – one financial, one for health, one for relationships.
Remove one negative influence from your life.
Look for a new job/career that will make you happy.

Wealth New Years Resolutions

Stop buying coffee daily.
Buy food weekly from the grocery store and stop eating from restaurants.
Save x amount of dollars per week.
Start using Acorns to invest money for the future.
Create a savings account and set automatic payments.
Pay credit cards off in full every month.
Whenever you pay with cash, and get a $5 bill in change put that aside and don’t spend it. At the end of the year count how much money you have.
Replace retail therapy with another activity.
Use stash app to start saving for your goals, car, home, etc.

What are some ways you are going to promote self love during 2021?

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