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Life Lessons I Learned In My Twenties

It’s starting to hit me that I am really in my 30s. But if we’re being honest, not much has changed from my 20’s. Butttt my 20’s were really a wild decade, from college to now it is hard to believe that so much time has gone by.

Looking back at my 20’s, it really was a decade of self growth and discovering my own self worth. I’ve always struggled trusting myself and dealt with more confidence issues than you can imagine. In the past decade, I’ve played Division 1 and 2 lacrosse, coached collegiate lacrosse, started my sales and marketing career, moved to Boston and lived their for over 5 years, bought 3 cars, made a bagillion and 1 mistakes, became a Nationally Qualified NPC Bikini Competitor, coached youth lacrosse, most recently became a varsity lacrosse coach, all while trying to keep my anxiety at bay and getting through every day!

Even though I feel like I am the same person from 10 years ago, I really have grown so much. I have learned a lot, and I’m looking forward to learning even more in my 30s. But no matter where life takes me, I will be taking these life lessons from my twenties with me wherever I go!

Trust Your Gut

If you have a feeling that something is either really right or really wrong, run with it.  Your instinct is always correct.

Put Yourself First

At the end of the day you have yourself to rely on, that’s it.  You’re stuck with you forever. Take care of yourself.  If you don’t like the situation that you are in, change it.  Your job isn’t cutting it, get a new one.  Someone is adding stress to your life, move on.  It really is ok to be selfish, on occasion, and make sure you are doing what’s right for you.

Trust Your Gut Even More

Seriously – don’t doubt yourself.  Whether it is a person, place, or thing, you’ll know if it’s meant for you or if it isn’t. Don’t ignore those butterflies in your stomach or aches in your heart, they are there for a reason.  Trust them.

Lean On Your Friends

If you’re lucky enough to have a group of friends that love you, lean on them. You don’t need to go through your issues and life alone. A true friend will let you vent, will help you solve your problems, and will not judge you at all. Don’t be afraid of opening up to your best friends, they are your best friends for a reason and will be there be your side through it all.

Don’t Spend Money On Stupid Things

Yes, money comes and money goes but do not throw your money away.  If you need something, buy it, but don’t spend all your money on one trip or something you will use once just to say you have it – live within your means.  I’ve seen way to many friends bury themselves in unnecessary debt for no other reason than crazy spending habits.   

Invest Early and Often

Want to know what’s amazing? Compound Interest. Let your money work for you. Talk to a financial advisor as soon as possible to get yourself on the right track. Does your company offer a 401k match? Do it. Are you young enough to really benefit from a ROTH 401k? Do it. The later you start, the less growth potential but at the end of the day it’s NEVER to late to start. Invest what you can and forget about it. Yes taking money out of your paycheck stings, but years down the road you’ll revisit the account and be oh so pleasantly surprised with the bag you’ve managed to secure.

Looking for a quick, easy, and effective way to start investing money? Check out Acorns.  One of my favorite investment apps. You’ll get $5 in free stock when you sign up.

It’s Okay If Your Friend Circle Gets Smaller

Quality over Quantity. Your life will change, so will your friends and family. People will move away from you, and people will move near you. Your group will change, grow, and shrink. If your circle gets smaller, it’s okay. People have a time and place in your life, trust the universe and everything happening for a reason.

People Will Let Your Down

Not everything will be sunshine and rainbows, and that’s not a problem. People will let you down and it will feel like the end of the world. You might go through all the feels, but you will come out on top at the end of the day. You will learn lessons and you will grow. You will learn who is worth your time and who is not. Someone very close to me once said, energy is replenish-able so use it frivolously, time is not re-useable so use it wisely. Value your time and the people you let in your life.

Hang Onto What Makes Your Happy

Everything you do should be something that brings you happiness or takes you on a road to happiness. Don’t give something up that makes you happy. Don’t spend your time trying to chase something new in hopes of happiness if you already are living your best life.

It’s Okay To Let Go Of People You Once Loved

Many people will come and go from your life, some are harder to let go of than others. Some might take longer to let go of than others, but when someone no longer serves a purpose in your life its best to let them go and move forward. There’s always better things ahead.

If Someone Opens The Door to Leave, Let Them

For any reason, if someone of some thing decides to leave your life, let them. Do not force anyone or any situation you are in to stay if it chooses to leave you. The right person will stay. The right job will work out. The right friends will stay. You owe it to yourself to surround yourself with people who want to be with you. You owe it to yourself to be in a situation that works for you! If someone wants to leave, let them.

It’s Easy To Make Money

Don’t be scared of money. Making money is easy. There are a million and one ways to make a living, most of which you probably haven’t thought of yet and guess what, they aren’t illegal. Don’t be scared to try and start something of your own or a side hustle!

Don’t Compare Your Life to Someone Else’s Life

We are all living our lives on different paths. Your 20’s is a wild time where people are getting married, having babies, divorcing, getting jobs, starting companies, losing jobs, losing money, making insane amounts of money.. There’s so much change happening because everyone is figuring out their own lives. Don’t look at someone else and wish you have what they have. If you focus on other people’s lives more than your own, you’ll miss out on the amazing things that you are doing and the life that you are building for yourself.

Never Stop Loving Yourself

It will get rocky at times, but never forget how incredible of a person you are. Don’t let a person make you think you aren’t worthy. Don’t let a social media app make you think you aren’t beautiful. Don’t let one failure define you. You’ve made it this far and there’s so much ahead of you waiting!

If you’re currently in your twenties, enjoy it. I sure did.

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2 thoughts on “Life Lessons I Learned In My Twenties

  1. kbayneblog

    I’m 17 male and I want to make all the right decisions early before it’s too late. I know that money is a massive thing and we need to keep it going strong to live a proper life. You said invest, I know you put a link for an app but how do I really get started?
    Thank you very much for this post!


    • I would recommend meeting with a financial advisor! Everyones situation is different and meeting with an expert can help you build out a plan for success that works best for you lifestyle and financial standings. Starting at your age is a huge benefit!


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