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Why We Should Never Forget Eliza Fletcher

This case polarized me from the morning of Friday, September 2nd when I first received the notification no my phone about a missing jogger. What happened to Eliza Fletcher is something that everyone has thought of being a possibility, something that all women and men need to be aware of, something that you really only read about, but never believed would actually happen.

In the early morning hours on Friday, September 2nd, Eliza Fletcher went on a run in her hometown of Memphis, Tennessee. She did this every morning, it was her routine. She didn’t know that this Friday morning would be different than all the other mornings. Eliza was met by evil in human form this Friday morning, his name should not get any notoriety so I won’t mention it, who violently attacked her after waiting for her to run by him and his car. These would be Eliza’s final moment. After her violent abduction, not long after, Eliza Fletcher was murdered and left at an abandoned help. Thanks to the Memphis Police Department, the University of Memphis, Good Samaritans and neighbors, the suspect was apprehended the next day. Eliza’s body was found on September 5th, and identified on September 6th.

This seemingly random, violent, stranger abduction raises so many questions, considering the suspect was previously arrested under violent kidnapping charges which he pleaded guilty too. This post is not for that or anything on criminal justice reform. This is for Eliza and why all runners, walkers, people who are outside, should remember her and this absolutely tragic event.

As runners and outdoor enthusiasts, we have all had nightmares of this situation.

Every morning, runners wake up to get their miles in, just like Eliza. They run for so many reasons – to escape thoughts, to stay in shape, to train for competition, but many see it as therapy. A simple act of self-care turned into a death sentence for this mother of 2 and now all runners will start their runs with a little extra awareness, a few more nerves, because of this tragic event. Even before the news of Eliza Fletcher’s violent kidnapping :

We play our music low or only wear one headphone so we can hear footsteps or people approaching around or behind us.

We carry pepper spray on our keychains for protection.

We were told to put our keys between our fingers and hold fists.

We share our locations at all times with our family and closest friends so they know where we are, when we are there, and if we are in the place we are supposed to be at.

We have disaster playbooks in our heads about how to handle people who cross our paths with bad intentions, so we have a plan if a terrible situation ever happens to us.

We make eye contact with some and avoid eye contact with others.

We make phone calls to trusted friends and family when we are alone and feel unsafe.

We touch trees, street light poles, walls, things on our path, so there is a physical trail of where we were and are headed.

As an active female, I have always been warned of the possibility of a terrible crime like what happened to Eliza. She could have been any of us. Whether it is in the morning, afternoon, or night, the fear of a random abduction has been warned. Yet, we all continue to do what we love – running, walking, hiking, etc. Eliza was outside running the morning she was senselessly murdered. The fear that we all have had did not stop Eliza.

Ways to Remember Eliza Fletcher

Share Her Story, Keep Her Name Alive.

The end of Eliza’s life is nightmare worthy, but it needs to be told. People need to know and change needs to be made. Women and men should not be afraid to go outside and ran by themselves. Share her story so others know that even though this appears to be a part of a horror movie script, it is indeed real life and was a real event that took place. We should not have to fear, but at the end of the day this is a very unfortunate reality that everyone should be aware of.

Keep Running for Eliza.

Continue pursuing your passions, your therapeutic activities, your marathon training, as she did regardless of the fears that she and many other women runners feel on a daily basis. Don’t stop running. Wake up every morning and run.

Stay Safe and Aware.

We should not have to worry about being abducted, but now more than ever we have to stay safe and aware. Do not let this story fade into the depths of the news and reporting and what’s the hot story – let Eliza’s story steer you into becoming an advocate for safety for women runners everywhere. Take the extra steps that may seem overboard – share your location, stay aware of your surroundings, carry a collapsable knife, carry pepper spray. I am sure that Eliza took precaution before her run, there is a reason why her case was solved so quickly.

Start a Community Watch Group

Keeping your community together and looking out for each other is important. Neighborhood Apps and Facebook Groups are create methods to stay in touch with your community. You never know what a small observation you make can have – many things that were reported by Good Samaritans and neighbors led to the arrest of Eliza’s killer and the discovery of Eliza’s body. If your community does not have one, start a watch group in Eliza’s honor.

Create or Join a Running Club or Group

The fear should not stop you from running or doing any activities solo – but in wake of Eliza Fletcher’s murder, it may not be the first thing on your to do list. Join a run club or create a run club to ensure that you are traveling with a group of people during your exercise. Whether it is a group of 3 or a group of 30, get people out and running and do so in Eliza FLetcher’s memory.

Eliza Fletcher Could Have Been Any of Us.

Eliza Fletcher’s case resonated a little extra to me and I know it struck a cord with many others. There’s been many times that I felt unsafe – the multiples times I called my father scared that a man was following me when I was walking home, or the car that followed me into my neighborhood when I walked home from school, or making eye-contact with someone who is uncomfortably watching me so that they know I see them and are aware of what is happening around me. The list goes on and it really is terrifying.

We cannot let this case slip beneath the rug and fade from our memories. Eliza Fletcher’s story must stay alive and everyone needs to understand the fear and the dangerous reality that we are battled every single day.

The fear is real.

The nightmare can be a reality.

We can’t let it stop us and dictate or lives. All we can do is prepare, stay vigilant, and plan for the worst. If we pretend the fear is not real then we are allowing ourselves to live in a false reality. Terrible things happen, we must acknowledge it, prepare for it, but try to not let it dictate the rest of our lives.

Rest in Peace Eliza Fletcher.


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8 Ways to Help Reduce Anxiety and Anxious Feelings

Believe it or not anxious feelings and anxiety are not something that is rare… In fact many people battle with anxiety every day. Anxiety can come at different levels and can cause a ray of emotions and physical effectives, it is very different for each person and each situation. Just because you don’t experience anxiety like someone else, does not mean that you are better or worse off. It just means that you process these emotions differently.

Regardless of how you experience anxiety, there are some ways to help reduce anxiety. Again, it is different for every person and this list serves as suggestions to try to help reduce anxiety and anxious feelings. These all may work for you, or none of the work – but navigating anxiety is a learning experience at its finest. Learning what works, what doesn’t, what helps, what doesn’t, what increases feelings, what decreases feelings, is all part of each individual’s journey and for everyone’s own discovery. So wherever you are, I hope this list can help provide some value and some help in reducing anxiety.


8 Ways to Reduce Anxiety

Begin a Meditation Practice

Meditation is a way to disconnect from what surrounds us and reconnect with our physical being. Removing distracts and disconnecting with what doesn’t serve you works wonders on an anxious mind. Practicing this disconnection can help aid in reducing anxiety because you become more aware our your physical being and in touch with why certain emotions are present. Your body reacting in certain ways, anxiety included, is your body’s way of communicating with you. When you disconnect to understand the underlying reasoning you can being to release some of the anxious tendencies.

Release Emotions Instead of Holding onto Them

Holding in past emotions, from all experiences, aid in anxious feelings. Whether we are aware of it or not of past experience shape us and until we acknowledge all emotions and the feelings/behaviors that are tied to them, we won’t be able to fully embrace life in the now. Anxiety plays a role as we are constantly nervous or scared to walk down roads or experience pain that we have felt before. Releasing these negative emotions to make room for positivity can help reduce anxiety and also makes rooms for more positive energy and experiences to fill the void that these negative emotions once filled.

Add a Morning Routine to Your Day

Starting your day with a plan, a routine, creates structure. For me personally, the unknown is a major driver of anxiety. Not know what is next or what to do is a trigger, especially when I have a lot of things on my plate. I worry that I can’t balance them all, and cue all the anxious feelings. Adding a morning routine provides a pattern of structure to follow, every morning the routine is the same and sets your day up on the right foot. This routine can incorporate daily tasks, self-love practice, hydration, physical activity, really anything that helps you focus on yourself and put yourself in the best headspace to start the day. Morning Routines do not prevent bad days, but they sure help create more good days!

Get Active

Physical Activity is known for producing serotonin. Positive energy and physical activity are was to reduce anxiety. Physical activity can be anything from a brisk walk to running a marathon. For some people it’s an hour long gym session and for other’s it’s a five minute walk during their lunch break at work. The point here is you do not need to compare your physical activity level to anyone else’s and any level physical activity and getting active can help reduce anxiety.

Daily Entries in Your Bullet Journal

Journalling is a practice that has helped more than just my anxiety, but has been vital in my own self-love & spiritual journey. Bullet Journalling is even more valuable because of the minimal time investment and lack of intense short. It’s brief, concise, and to the point. A three line entry will do the trick. Journalling is a great way to acknowledge and get in touch with your emotions, including anxiety. Acknowledging what causes your anxious emotions is the first step to addressing them. Once you are aware of your triggers, you can work to identify what has worked in reducing them and even what increases them – A bullet journal is a great place to document this information!

Make To-Do Lists for the Next Day

Those hard to fall asleep nights are usually cause by anxious feelings and can be tackled by simply getting thoughts to paper on the next day. Similar to a morning routine, writing out a to-do list for the next day before you go to bed is a great way to build structure. It can help reduce those anxious thoughts a fear of forgetting items or tasks that need to be done. I always feel that a written to-do list is more effective than writing one on your phone, but both are great options to help ease and calm your mind before sleep.

Use Affirmations

A great body builder, Kai Greene, once said “thoughts become things” and I couldn’t believe in this more. When dealing with anxious thoughts and anxiety, it’s important to remember that you are in control of your own thoughts, which in turn means you are in control of what becomes from your thoughts. That can be positive energy that is needed in all facets of live, motivation that’s needed to accomplish your goals, or even working on your physical appearance. Using positive affirmations that support abundance, success, self-love, and positivity, can help shape your thoughts and reduce anxious feelings.

Talk to Your Friends & Family

This ties to one that was mentioned before, but it is worth mentioning twice. Your friends and family all love you and support you, they are you pillars that are there to help. If you are experiencing negative emotions and anxiety, talk to them about it. Opening up about how you feel to a trusted source is therapeutic in its own right, and helps you put words to the emotions that you are feeling, which helps you address what they are, how they got there, and what you can do to help minimize their presence. It can also be a relatable conversation – People tend to hold in anxious thoughts because they feel alone, but at the end of the day every person often experiences some degree on anxious emotions. Talking to friends and family can make you feel that you are not in this fight alone, they can offer some great pieces of advice also!


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Moon Stages

9 Best Spiritual Instagram Accounts to Follow for Inspiration

Over the past 3 years, I have been on my own personal spiritual journey. It has been incredibly enlightening and allowed me to understand so much more about who I am, what I want to be, and why I am the way I am. This used to be something that I rarely spoke about because I feared that others would judge me, but that’s not the case anymore.

Over time I realized how energy and vibrations can shift your life and create paths that you never thought possible. From career to relationships, the universe is on your side! As I began wanting to learn more about the universe and astrology, I came across some insightful Instagram Accounts that helped me understand more about myself but also the world around me.

If you are beginning your spiritual journey or looking for more outlets for information to continue on your pre-existing journey, make sure to follow these accounts!


@moonomens

@spiritdaughter

@magic_of_i

@sanctuarywrld

@astrologydotcom

@moonandcactus

@queercosmos

@evelyn.zuel

@ceciliamoonart


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My Favorite Meditations on Insight Timer

I am about two years into my meditation journey, and I really can’t imagine my life without it. There’s something incredibly soothing when you are able to take a few minutes to yourself and enjoy the calmness. In a world full of hustle and bustle and craziness, releasing stagnant energy and basking in the calmness around you really does wonders.

I’ve learned a lot about myself through my meditation practice. Allowing yourself to connect to the energy around you and disconnect from what no longer serves you allows you to move forward on whatever path you choose. Whether you are looking to connect to yourself on a deeper level or are on an intense spiritually journey, meditating is an incredible practice!

If you are new to meditating, I am excited for you! I hope that these inspiring you to settle your mind and search within. If you are a seasoned veteran, I hope these can provide some new guided meditations to keep in your back pocket.


First things first, I am not affiliated with Insight Timer in any capacity. I found Insight Timer when I first began meditating regularly and have used it since then for daily practice. If you are also on the app (or just downloaded it) let’s be friend! @teenafey (no shocker there).

These meditations are my tried and true favorites. Bookmark this page and come back to it time and time again to try out some new meditations on Insight Timer. Some are guided and others are music that plays a specific frequency. So settle down on your meditation pillow or yoga mat, sync up with your breathing and let your meditation practice begin!

Best Meditations on Insight Timer

Morning Ritual Jason McGrice

Cord Cutting Practice Avalon Starlight

Toxic Energy Cleanse Melody Litton

Healing Darkness For Sleep Jennifer Piercy

Open to Your Soulmate Jason McGrice

Cut Energetic Cords Renee Wilkinson

Love Energy Healing Session: Reiki For Sleep Ellen Mouton

Cleansing Cord Cutting Meditation & Visualization Jocelyn Valencia

Melting Stress, Fear & Anxiety Jason McGrice

Best Music on Insight Timer

417Hz Clears Away All Negative Energy Shrine of Enlightenment

Sacral Chakra Tibetan Singing Bowls Sonic Yogi

432Hz Heart Chakra Healing While You Sleep Healing Dawn

555Hz Positive Change, Deep Healing & Manifestation Simon Rose

Third Eye Chakra Singing Bowls Sonic Yogi

Deep Sleep Music – 1.5Hz Binaural Beats For Sleep Aaron Darrell

I hope you enjoy these Insight Timer meditations as much as I do!


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Birthday Gift Guide for the Moon Child

Ever get stuck finding gifts for friends? It always seems like everyone has everything they could possible need and more…

I’ve curated a list of some fun gifts for the crystal loving, spiritually awaken, moon child friend! As a note all of these are from Amazon, and Prime, so for my last minute shoppers, I got you! If you hate all of these, I hope they gave you some inspiration. If you love any of them, I hope you get one or two for your friends!


‘ I have a crystal for that ‘ Bag

‘ Stay Wild Moon Child ‘ Sign

Crystal Candles

Crystal Healing Card Deck

White Sage Bundles

Smudge Kit

Shores of Moon Tarot Deck

Tarot Card Necklace

Angel Number Necklace

Zodiac Throw Blanket

Birthdate Candle

Affirmation Cards


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Reclaiming Your Power 101

Sometimes it takes getting knocked down to rock bottom to truly realize how often and freely you give your power away. When I say power, I don’t mean control, mentally or physically, I mean your peace and who you are.

Whether it is through relationships (both good and bad), work environments, expectations from family, anything really, we as humans can tend to lose ourselves and who we are by giving most, if not all, of our power to others (people, places, or things). If I’m confusing you with these winded explanations, let me break it down short and sweet :

Reclaiming your power is about loving and trusting in yourself.

Think about all the times you’ve allowed your thoughts, values, or goals to shift because of an outside influence. Or maybe even saw a future, with a person, or at a company, that was swiftly taken away from you. Those moments, when you feel lost, when your heart is in the bottom of your stomach, and you don’t know where to turn next, are when you need to reclaim you, your power, the most. Your path and life will change, that is inevitable. Staying true to who you are and even learning who you are, through tough times, when you feel powerless, is what reclaiming your power truly means.

Before getting into some ways to reclaim your power, it is important to acknowledge what you are feeling and why you are feeling it. Identifying why you feel lost and why you may be out of sorts can require some deep soul searching, but it is necessary. Was it getting let go at a job? A breakup? Fight with a friend? Understanding what is causing these low-level emotions is the first step. Next Step? Feel them.

Feel every single emotion. Name everything thing you are feeling. Sadness. Resentment. Disappointment. Regret. Relief. Anger. Then think about how you feel each of those. The knot in your stomach. The rock in your throat. That piercing pain above your eyebrow in your brain. The heaviness in your legs. Now tie those intense feelings to the words. That knot is your stomach tightens up when you are sad or missing someone. That intense headache is when you are disappointed in yourself. Whatever it is for you, identify it. and feel it. Feel the low-level emotions! Do not sweep these under the rug, because these feelings aren’t “bad” feelings, consider them signs. When you start to connect the “gut” feelings to the emotions or the situation, you’ll start to listen to your body when it is screaming “no” to you. You’ll start to get what your body has been trying to tell you all along. Once you are in tune with yourself, then you can start the internal work to reclaim your power. You got this.

Embrace Failure

Not everything is going to be perfect, and that is ok. Understanding, and I mean truly understanding, that not everything will be sunshine and rainbows is the key to embracing failure. In order to reclaim your power, its important to redefine “failure” as just a shift in direction from your ideal plan. Got that job you love and look forward to every day, but then there is a re-org and that position is no longer available? Not a failure. Just a shift. Maybe you’ll find an even better position with better pay. Just because one thing ends, doesn’t mean that life is over.

At the end of the day “failure” teaches us lessons. Teachable moments aren’t just for a classroom, they are for everyday life. Failing does not mean the end of the road, it means something new is on the horizon. Reclaiming your power can start when you start seeing a “failure” as a pivot to a new opportunity or new experience, there’s really no limits to where life will progress to.

Saying No

Say no – frequently and often, if necessary.

The power in saying no is extraordinary. Honestly, saying yes when you do not want to say yes to something can cause a slew of unhealthy chain reactions. The mental, and sometimes physical, stress of people-pleasing can be so incredibly heavy. Saying yes to everything, is quite literally, putting everybody before yourself. Remember, reclaiming your power is really putting yourself, your health and thoughts, first. Are there times when you have to say yes, 100%. I’m not encouraging you to say “No” whenever you are asked to do something, its always nice to go above and beyond for someone or step out of your comfort zone every once in a while, but more to set limitations and think about what you truly want to do and, more importantly, are capable of doing.

Do you want to go out to dinner with that guy you met last night at a bar? Not really, but he bought you a few drinks and it is at a really nice restaurant you’ve always wanted to try, so you might as well say yes and go. Nope. If you aren’t feeling something, say no, it could be a hard no or a “no, but.” Think about it : That dinner you said yes to, when you really wanted to say no, seems like a hassle because you really wanted to stay in tonight and lay low get some extra work done. You’ve been sleeping like crap and really wanted to get to bed early in hopes of feeling refreshed the next morning. Work has been super stressful since it is Q4, so you wanted to spend some extra time on the project you’ve been assigned while just relaxing with some much needed alone time. But you went to the dinner anyway, felt bad that he might think you aren’t interested if you said no, so you didn’t rest like you needed or get the work done. That dinner you said yes to, made you incredibly stressed out at work the next day because you had 3 client calls and no time to complete the tasks you wanted to be done with already but didn’t have the chance to finish because you had to get ready to go out last night. Not to mention the splitting headache thats a caused from the combination of a slight wine hangover and lack of sleep. You’re now staying at work late to get work done, but things keep piling on your plate. Your stress level just keeps rising because you don’t know when are how you’ll be able to catch up. Totally random, relatable, and super broad example, but see how one people-pleasing “yes” can turn into a landslide of events in multiple aspects of your life? It really is ok to say No. You’ve probably experienced much more severe instances than this one, but I’m sure you get it.

“Saying No” not only helps you reclaim your power, but it can help bring happiness, define your path, and provide you with clear vision on where you, and only you, want to see your life heading.

Stay Away From Toxic People Who Disrupt Your Peace

Say. It. Louder. For. The. People. In. The. Back.

This is going to be short sweet and to the point. Seeing the best in every person is very important, but what’s more important is identifying when someone is no good, or no longer good, for you and your life. If someone is sucking energy from you, it is ok to stay away from them. Sometimes you notice this right away, other times it stays hidden for sometime. It can be difficult, like extremely difficult, to cut ties with people, but in order to reclaim your power, you need to set boundaries with people and sometimes that means parting ways. Respect yourself, your energy, and most importantly your peace.

Quick Sidenote : You can be toxic for someone else, too. Internally think about what you are bringing to the table and begin to identify your own toxic behaviors. Self Improvement is always necessary. If someone leaves you, or something happens that you did not initiate, part of taking back your power, is acknowledging that maybe you were not meant to be in that situation. Maybe this plot twist you didn’t see coming is leading you to some of the best things in your life.

Be Alone

You do not have to always associate with something else. A person, place or thing. Not everyone has a place in your life. You do not have a place in everyone’s life. There will be times when you seem to be charting into unknown waters, alone. That’s okay. It can be scary, but again, that’s okay.

Reclaiming your power is not a giant happy party, going through this sucks. Like big time, sucks. In full transparency, learning who you are, what you are capable of, and getting over a painful event is not easy. Yes, this is a super light-hearted and fun blog post, but we need to call a spade a spade and it really is difficult. If you are embarking on this journey to reclaim your power, I commend you. I am excited for you and hope at the end you rise as the person you are meant to be.

Embrace the suck. Embrace being alone. Embrace finding yourself. Embrace trusting yourself. When no one is next to you to guide you or hold your hand, you are the only person who can lead. You and you alone, with your intuition and whatever spiritual wisdom you believe in, are it. This is when you really discover who you are, what you need, and what you want. You can also find out who is meant to be in your life and who isn’t, but that comes from really connecting with, understanding, and loving yourself.

Reclaim Your Power

At the end of the day, the point is to not let a situation or person take and maintain keeping your power. Your power is yours, don’t let it escape you. Letting a situation or person have power over you is what we want to avoid. That painful breakup may seem like the end, it’s not. That business you started going under, it’s not the end. The minute you start to maintain your power in whatever situation life throws at you, really shows how much you have healed.

If you are currently on the healing journey, and reclaiming your power, I am excited for you. Healing is truly an incredible thing and is something many people brush over lightly. To truly heal and reclaim your power is rewarding. As you continue on your healing journey, always remember to:

  1. Maintain The Standards That You Set
  2. Embrace Your True Authenticity
  3. Never Settle
  4. Truly and Entirely, Protect Your Energy
  5. Allow for Set Backs and Continued Growth

Good Luck. You Got This.


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