It’s getting colder and the sun is rising later, which means we will all be waking up in the dark soon. Maybe it’s just me but as winter gets into full swing here on Long Island, waking up with no sunlight is so difficult. It literally could take an army to get me out of my bed. Even after waking up it’s tough to get going, just a constant groggy feeling – it sucks. Implementing a morning routine can help with all of this!
Starting the day on the right foot can lead to a super productive day. Having an effective and maintainable morning routine can help you keep those good mornings going day after day.
Did you know that having a morning routine can give you :
More Free Time
Better Sleep Patterns
Getting your life together in the morning can lead to all sorts of positive things! There’s no better feeling than waking up and feel productive. A morning routine can help with this! But it does take time and some fine tuning. Sometimes you plan too little and sometimes you plan too much, it about coming up with the perfect combination that gets you fired up to start your day. Don’t be discouraged if a morning routine didn’t work in the past, you can try again and make it better for you!
Having a morning routine can kick start the mood for your entire day. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy either. I personally give myself 30-45 minutes every morning to run through my morning routine. A routine can be different for everyone, some people need an hour to wake up some people need 5 minutes. If you are thinking about adding a morning routine to your schedule or just looking to change yours up a bit, here’s a list of some things you can include!
Make a Healthy Breakfast
Write Down Your Goals For The Day
Make a Cup of Coffee
Going for a Walk
Read for 30 Minutes
Make Your Bed
There are really endless possibilities that you can incorporate into a morning routine. The idea is to create a maintainable routine that not only makes you excited to wake up in the morning, but gets you ready to tackle the entire day ahead. It gives you time to plan in the morning and can help you lay out a game plan for the day. In reality, there really aren’t any downsides to a morning routine!
Do you have a morning routine? What are some of the things you do every morning?
I came across a post on Oliva’s blog, and it got me thinking that it may be a good idea to tell you all more about me! I tend to write more about Long Island, my Jeep Wrangler, and self-love/self-care pieces (all of which are super important to me). Although I share and write a decent amount of social media, I try my best to keep my private life well private. It took a little brainstorming but I think it is pretty cool to give you an inside look at who I am and who is writing all this content! We might be more similar or different than you think.
In order to get to know me better, and let you learn more about who I am, I think it would be fun to share 10 things about me that you might not know :
1. I Played Lacrosse In College
I am a former D1/D2 NCAA athlete – kinda crazy that it feels like yesterday but my college career started 10 years ago! I’ve played lacrosse my entire life and continue to stay involved in the sport by coaching at the club level, providing private and small group training to youth players, and running/organizing clinics for local towns. I played at the Division 1 level at UMass Amherst and completed my playing career at Dowling College. Lacrosse has made me who I am and I am so lucky to have had to opportunity to play at the highest level possible.
2. Cooking Is Not My Thing
Ask me to bake anything and I got you! But cooking – that’s a whole other playing field that I steer far from. I mean I can do the basics and I follow directions really well, but coming up with creative meals and cooking from scratch is not my forte. I want to learn more and get better, but I’m pretty content with hoping I surround myself with a bunch of people that can cook! I do have to say, if there’s one meal I can cook it’s breakfast. I love making eggs and omelettes and pancakes – that I can do pretty damn well.
3. I Love Sneakers
I am a self-declared sneakerhead and have been since High School. I had a bit of a fall off when I wasn’t making enough money to support my expensive habit, but guess what? Sneakerhead Tina is back in full swing. I currently have my eye on two upcoming releases – Stussy X Nike Hemp Air Force 1 and Off-White X Futura X Nike Dunks. I’ve recently been all aboard the Yeezy train and have gotten lucky in the past few releases, but I have always had a soft spot for Nike sneakers. My collection of Dunks and Air Max’s was impressive – I wish I was the same size shoe to wear them all! My one rule for sneakers is to never buy after market, I will only pay retail for any sneakers that I own.
4. I Only Wear Mis-Matched Socks
Yea, this is a weird one but only the real one’s know how accurate this statement is. I like fun socks and I don’t like matching them after doing laundry. My feet are always covered by sneakers so it’s not like anyone ever sees my mis-matched socks! I’ve always been about being efficient, taking time to match socks could be better used elsewhere – like writing this blog. Think about all the socks you’ve matched and folded, that’s probably a pretty decent chunk of time you could of been using somewhere else!
5. Madewell Is My Favorite Store
I love Madewell – I swear by their jeans and they really are the only ones that fit me just right. Whether I am at work or out with friends it’s pretty much guaranteed that at least 2 pieces of my outfit are from Madewell. They really have clothes (shoes, bags, and accessories) for every occasion. The sale section is always pretty great as well, I’m always about getting a good deal – you can typically always find al sizes and extra discounts in the sale section!
6. I Was An Amateur Bodybuilder
Way back a few years ago, really not that long ago, I was into bodybuilding. I competed in NPC shows and earned the Nationally Qualified ranking. I was planning on competing at the National Level for my Pro Card but ultimately decided against it. I learned a lot about myself during that time and what I was capable of doing, physically and mentally. I am very happy that I left the sport. Not only are you pushing extremes physically, but it takes a mental toll as well. Constantly being compared to others and worrying about your own image starts to eat away at you confidence and self-esteem. As much as people preach that it’s “you against you,” every competitor knows that you are comparing and going against others. I’m happy I am one of the few who have removed myself from the sport without any major consequences, physically or mentally. Maintaining a good relationship with fitness is also something I am grateful for! I hope everyone who is consumed in the fitness world currently, comes to the conclusion that the world doesn’t revolve around the way you look. It’s all about balance!
7. My Favorite Color is Purple
This one people might say – Tina your Jeep is purple, you love purple, we get it. That is all true but most don’t know why purple is my favorite color. I lost a very close friend in 2012 to a tragic dirt bike accident. It affected me very much and I still carry the pain with me every day. His favorite color was purple. I started wearing purple bracelets to remember him by. Slowly but surely the purple bracelets evolved into pretty much everything – the color brings back all the happy times, the memories, and everything I never want to forget. Whenever I see purple I think of Nick and know that he is with me always. Purple will always be my favorite color.
8. I Am 5’10”
I am pretty tall for a woman and never really liked my height until recently. I was kind of tall for most of my life but really shot up in High School. Being the tallest person in the room is a typical thing, I’m used to feeling like an Avatar. I used to slouch a lot and hated taking pictures with my shorter friends. I started embracing my height and after all is said and done i really do love being tall! It doesn’t hurt that my boyfriend is 6’5″ so I always feel little next to him!. 🙂
9. I Will Own My Own Business
I guess this is a future thing, but manifesting works wonders – I will own my own business. I’ve always had an entrepreneurial mind and have many side hustles. The idea is that I put enough energy and focus behind one to take off. Being super realistic, I’m spread very thin between my full time job, coaching, lacrosse private trainings, and lacrosse clinics. One of my goals is to dive into e-commerce and really take advantage of this super digital era that we are living it.
10. I Am An Emo Kid
Yup – Growing up on Long Island during the pop-punk/emo scene pretty much assured I would be an emo kid. My seat belt-belt, skinny jeans, and band tees were the regular. I still listen to all my favorite albums from the mid-2000’s – emo drives in my car happen weekly. I still go to shows pretty often, the last one I went to was Silverstein’s 15 year Anniversary Show at House of Blues in Boston. While in Boston I got to see Anniversary shows with Senses Fail, Bayside, The Story So Far, Of Mice and Men, Anthony Green, the list goes on. I’ve always been big into music and the scene!
So there it is – 10 facts about me that you might not know! I have to say this was a pretty fun blog to end the week with. Let’s hear it! What is a fact about you that others might not know? Feeling rebellious? I challenge you to post 10 things about you!
It’s the end of the year and I cannot wait for my week and a half off! This year has had some many ups and downs – from moving from Boston and starting a new job, to navigating my way out of an extremely toxic relationship and finding a better one. I swear 2020 was the year for ultimate growth – but one thing that’s been consistent throughout most of the year? Work Stress.
Some people handle work stress better than others – I like to think I have a good hold on it, but sometimes I let it control my day. The first thing to do before trying to fix work stress, is acknowledging that it is a thing! We spend so much time at work, a majority of our lives, that it just seems normal at some point. Guess what? It’s not. Yes, some stress is good. It means you’re invested in reaching a goal and motivated to do it. When that stress reaches a higher level and it becomes unmaintainable, then your productivity will plummet. You want to avoid that at all costs.
Finding the line being highly productivity and stress related burn out is tough in the work place, especially in highly competitive environments. Once you’ve acknowledged that work stress is 100% the problem, here are some ways to help you decompress and keep your sanity.
Figure Out What Is Causing Your Work Stress
Work Stress can come from various different sources – figuring out what is causing the stress can help you better understand how to control it and also how to navigate your way out of it. Sometimes we get stressed over things that just aren’t worth it, you need to understand the root or the problem to know how to fix it. Maybe you have a micro-managing boss who is always nagging in your ear. Maybe you set unrealistic daily expectations for yourself and struggle to reach your goals every day. It could be that you are just unhappy at work. The list really could go on forever – every industry and job title has its own pressures and stress that come along with the territory.
Once you understand why your work stress is getting to a crazy point, you can start to develop a plan to fix it. Try to solve something that you don’t know the basis of can be tough, all the wine and essential oils can’t solve a problem if you don’t know why you have it.
Work Breaks Into Your Daily Schedule
Staring at your computer or working yourself to the bone for 8 hours straight doesn’t do anyone good. If you find yourself stressed from work, give yourself time regularly to take a break. Make sure you respect this time! Don’t go and book meetings or schedule tasks during your free time.
Breaks help with your productivity and your focus. Stepping away helps clear your mind and gives you a chance to look at things with fresh eyes. A task that was once daunting might not be as bad at second glance. Allowing yourself 5-10 minutes to get away from work, wether it be a task or a person, can help save your entire day.
Ask For Help
This is tough for a lot of people, myself included. Remember this – asking for help does not mean defeat. Asking for help doesn’t show weakness, it simply means that you need help! Most of the time, others are more than ready to assist a helping hand. If your work stress is coming from a place of unpreparedness or being unsure, asking for help can change your life. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from higher ups or peers – It’s a lot more beneficial to get the task done right first than to be told that it’s wrong and you have to re-do everything. Whatever you need help with just be vocal about it – everyone has been new or a beginner at some point. If you are confused, don’t know where to start, don’t know how to work something, not sure what to do next, don’t give up on it completely. Ask for help!
If You Need To Vent, Don’t Vent To A Co-Worker
If you have stress from work, chances are some of your co-workers do too. You should refrain at all costs from venting to them. Call your friends or your family. Talking about work stress to co-workers can open a can of worms when it comes to office drama and things getting re-told to people who shouldn’t hear them. You really just don’t want to go there. But why is this important to handling stress?
When you start venting with a co-worker, it will continue. It can become part of your every day to complain about how stressed you are and how miserable you can be. It takes time out of your day to finish your work and it puts a lot of negative energy in the air. Instead of talking to someone in your office or organization, try calling a close friend or family member. They’ll be totally unbiased, let you get whatever you have to off your chest and then go on with your day. It will only occur the next time you call or talk to them about it. Venting is so necessary and can help with controlling and decompressing stress from work – just make sure you are venting to the right people!
Stop Working At The Same Time Every Day, Don’t Overwork.
This might be a reason because I need to hear this… I work 12/13 hour days normally and it really takes a toll. Overworking might not be bad the first or second time, but it takes a mental and physical toll if it becomes a reoccuring issue. Letting work take over your life can be pretty negative toward your overall well-being. A way to combat this is to set a time that you can stop working and call it a day, don’t look back.
I totally get that some jobs you can’t do this and that some people have to be available 24/7. For situations like this, make sure your time off is your time off. Bringing work to days off makes work an around the clock event. If you can’t be done at a certain time then it is incredibly important to maximize your time off. Separate yourself from work and help get a head of your work stress!
I hope this was helpful! What are some ways that you handle work stress?
The holiday season is finally here! I am not one of those “Christmas begins after Halloween” people. For me, Christmas comes after Thanksgiving. The holiday season is about giving and about coming together with family and friends. With the world is it’s current state, there’s no knowing where things will be in a few weeks. Will everything shut down? Will the coronavirus continue spiking? No one knows, which means taking advantage of this holiday season and making sure you are keeping your loved ones close is so important.
Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, and Cyber Monday are all about striking deals to spoil yourself or those you care about most with gifts. Yes, giving big elaborate gifts can be seen as the ultimate way to show someone you care, but that’s not always the case. There are so many ways to show someone that you care about them with spending tons of money. I mean it is common knowledge the time is way more valuable than money.
Check out 5 simple ways to show someone you care about them :
1. Go out of your way to spend time with someone
There are so many things that you can do every single day. You can be a bum, you can go change the world, you can chase your dreams, you can really do anything you want! Choosing to spend time with someone is the best gift that can be given.
It sounds so simple, but for busy people this is easier said than done. Maybe you have to change plans, have lots of work left to do, or put something off that you’ve wanted to do just to sped time with someone you care about. Doing this costs absolutely nothing, and shows someone how much that they mean to you. You don’t have to spend money to show someone you care, giving someone your time weighs so much more.
2. Help someone solve a problem they’ve been struggling with
Everyone you know if fighting a battle. Making it a priority to help someone solve whatever they are facing shows so much more than a purchased gift ever could.
It could be a big or small problem : it could be an argument with a friend, an internal battle, or maybe putting together new Ikea furniture. It doesn’t matter what the problem is, but showing you are invested in finding a solution speaks volumes. If someone you care about is having a tough time with something, help them however you can. Even if you can’t fully solve the problem offer advice or a shoulder to lean in is incredibly valuable.
3. Leave a note or send someone a hand-written letter
Being in such a digital word, it’s easy to get caught up in sharing memes on Instagram or tagging someone in feel-good stories on Facebook. Writing a note for someone to find is such a personal gesture. If you can’t leave a note, try mailing a letter or a card to someone with a note inside. Sending a card to family, friends, or a significant other doesn’t take much time or money. It’s a quick way to show you care!
Just showing a small gesture that you had to take time out of your day to do can really change someone’s day. Adding in a personalized message or note can bring a smile to his/her face!
4. When something reminds you of someone, tell them
There’s really no need for explanation here : when you think of someone tell them! Maybe you watched a movie that you quote with a friend, or heard a song that brought up a special memory, whatever it is tell that person you thought of them. Being in a pandemic world, we might not be able to see everyone we’d like but letting someone know we are thinking about them can help us feel more connected while being apart. Thinking about this possibility of the looming second lockdown? Hopefully these 15 pieces of advice help!
5. Call someone out of the blue
Miss someone? Want to touch base but don’t know what to say? Do you need advice and there’s only one person you can trust? Just call them!
It could be a 5 minute chat or an hour long catch-up. The person you call might need that phone call more than you know! You never know how much a phone call could mean to someone, or even you reaching out could mean. Call a family member that you haven’t heard from a while. Haven’t seen a friend in a bit, give them a call! Just asking how things are going shows someone that you care. No money spent here, except on the phone bill.
It’s been almost a full year since the world was hit with the COVID-19 pandemic. Two weeks turned into 9 months very quickly. As anticipated, all signs are pointing to another shutdown. Just when things were starting to look up, numbers seem to be spiking again. Being through the initial shutdown and quarantine craziness, we’re in a better mental state to take on this looming second covid shutdown.
The first shutdown taught a lot of us about who we are as people – lots of quarantine time to spend with yourself and your loved ones. The led to plenty of quarantine break-ups (guilty) and some bridges burned from short tempers. But it also led to some really positive self growth and awareness. Knowing the two ends of the spectrum that this eventual shutdown and quarantine can lead to, it’s time to put your best foot forward and make the best of a situation that really isn’t great at all.
Here are a few things to start thinking about before the world turns upside down again – Hopefully together we can all make this next shutdown a productive one.
Buy What Your Need, Don’t Be a Hoarder.
You heard me. The absolute mayhem that ensued over toilet paper was just pure idiocy. Buy what you need and please don’t create a stock pile. There are many essential business and operations that will stay functioning during a shutdown that will make sure you have what you need to survive and wipe. You will get your toilet paper, please don’t start hoarding it and price gauging on Amazon, that’s just not cool. We’re all in this together.
Make Sure You Have Proper PPE
With the new administration change, it looks like a mask mandate is in our future. Although this is a touchy subject, we have to remember that it is not the business owners rule. Getting frustrated with employees who are working for a living during a crazy time is unacceptable. They are not the one’s who made the rules and are probably just as annoyed as you are that they have to wear a mask all day every day. Being in an establish without a mask can mean high fines for the business you are in. Please look out for those who are doing everything they can and wear the mask. I promise there are other ways to make your point without disrupting day to day business, and i agree that point should be made!
Do Not Become A Hermit
This goes out to all my introverts out there. As amazing as it is not have to deal with human interaction on the day-to-day during a quarantine situation, it really isn’t healthy. Maintain your relationships and friendships. Check in on those you care about. Do not lock the door and throw away the key. Hey, I was lucky enough to meet someone during quarantine the first time and am pretty happy with how things are going. Just because this “new normal” is happening doesn’t mean you have to put your life on hold.
Wash Your Hands!
We’re dealing with a pandemic in flu season. Yes, we haven’t heard much about the flu but it is still a thing. Don’t think you are immune to any sickness. Take care of yourself and those around you. Wash your hands!
These past couple weeks have been a struggle for many, myself included. The lay-offs are continuing, the virus has not hit its peak, and summer is slowly but surely getting cancelled. I feel like I’m getting numb to all the bad news that keeps coming out in the news and on social media daily. I … Read More
Please Don’t Make Hand Sanitizer Out Of Tequila or Vodka
I still have PTSD from grabbing some hand sanitizer and upon application think I poured a shot of alcohol in my hands. I don’t want to be reminded of college binge drinking when I am trying to kill any virus germs on my hands. It’s inconsiderate, don’t be that person! Plus after the first lock-down companies doubled down on the opportunity to make hand sanitizer. You can find it everywhere and above the 60% alcohol mark the CDC recommends! I just picked up a large bottle at Target for 4 bucks, they had hundreds in stock.
Don’t Abuse Single Use Gloves
The biggest pet peeve of all of this coronavirus pandemic was seeing people use gloves and touch their face. Or use gloves at the gas station to pump gas, open their wallet with the same gloves, use the credit card with the same gloves, put that waller in their pocket or bag, and drive away holding the steering wheel with the same gloves. The cross contamination that everyone witnesses was really something for the record books. Use your hand sanitizer, wash your hands, and for the love of god please stop spreading germs everywhere with your gloves!
If You Are Not Feeling Well, Admit It.
I’ve heard many people who have not felt well, gone out and interacted with other people, only to find out the next day after a test that they indeed have tested positive for coronavirus. You may think you are fine and invincible but that doesn’t mean that someone else isn’t. Yes it sucks having to stay inside, but doing the right thing really goes a long way, especially during a global pandemic.
It’s A Great Time To Start Something New!
Being stuck in the house and in the house bored, seems well boring. That’s because it is. Flip that attitude upside down and think about all the free time you gain. Think about how much you can gain if you use that time to your advantage. Whether is starting a new quarantine hobby, finishing a household project you’ve been thinking of for months, or even starting a business, just do it! With all this free time at your finger-tips, and no where to go, why not hone in and be productive and work towards a goal! There’s no better time then right now. Why not be the next quarantine success story?
Throughout the past almost 7 weeks of staying at home because of Coronavirus, I’ve managed to do some thinking about pretty much everything. It’s not very often that I have this much time on my hands. If you follow me on instagram you know I’ve been on the go, and “stay at home” wasn’t really … Read More
Support Local Businesses
We all learned that local small business will take a huge hit if this pandemic causes another shutdown. Even if they are forced to close their doors, there are ways to support! From buying gift-cards or buying branded merchandise, helping these business stay afloat is imperative to our economy. We are all in this together. I’ve seen some amazing business shut their doors on Long Island and in New York City, it’s a shame that it’s gotten to this point. I hope that this shutdown we all band together to help small businesses!
Don’t Cough In Public
You want a one way ticket to getting dirty looks? Cough in public. Coronavirus has made coughing in public taboo. Don’t be that guy.
Throw Out Your PPE, Don’t Leave It On The Ground
It was so sad to see the amount of masks and gloves being tossed on the ground and not put in garbage cans. Leaving garbage out is so gross and not pretty to look at it. Even if you have using garbage cans, just try to make the world a prettier place when we are all stuck in a pretty sour situation. Just throw out your trash in a garbage can and call it a day. No more dropping masks and gloves on the street!
Schedule Zoom Dates With Friends
Even if you can’t go out to eat or hang out, use Zoom to stay connected. With friends or family don’t just rely on calling. Having face-to-face interaction can help you stay positive, as well as your friends and family. You never know how much a phone call or chat can make someone’s day. Don’t think Zoom is stupid or annoying, it kind of is, but it’s the one of the only things we will have to keep staying close with those closest to us.
Starting a new routine is tough, but it’s starting to click. Today marks the start of week 5 of social distancing for me and I think I’m getting a pretty good grip on my new daily routine.
Don’t Wear A Mask In Your Car Alone
This may be something that just drives me crazy, but I know I can’t be the only one. You are alone in a vehicle, there is no need to wear a mask. You are by yourself. Unless you work as a ride-share driver or have a medical conditioning that requires you to do so.
Don’t Under Play The Virus
Yes, some people have had no reaction to the disease yet others have lost family members and loved ones. Everyone’s situation is different and assuming makes an ass of you and me. You never know who is truly hurting from the coronavirus. The virus is real and people’s live’s have been effected by it. Numbers and reporting may by inaccurate, but the bottom line is this is real and people have been hurt from it. Remember that before you say anything that could potentially be insensitive to others.
Going into shutdown again is such a bad thought, but even if it does happen we have to stay positive. Positive that things will turn around and positive that this will not last forever.
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This week has been absolutely crazy, and I’m writing this on Wednesday. I’m sure you’ve had a week like this, ya know that feels like 3 months but it’s only 7 days? Working at a Marketing Agency on Long Island, during pre-holiday season, means mass controlled chaos. Stress from work is at an all time high coupled with the sun setting early, makes for not the best the best mood. Working 10 hour plus days, working at home in the same place all day, waking up in the dark and ending your day in the dark, all have been the norm since day light savings and it’s all started to compound into one bad mood. I have managed 2 meltdowns in one week (it’s only Wenesday). Let’s be real – this week has been anything but a highlight.
But has it really been that bad? Yes, dealing with all the work stress and seasonal depression is tough but it’s not the only thing worth thinking about. Focusing on the negative makes everything negative. Focusing on the positive makes everything positive. Mindset shifts can really change your entire mood. Yes, I’ll be the first person to tell you I’ve been a grump and counting down the minutes til the weekend since I went to bed on Sunday night. But in the grand scheme of things this week really hasn’t been that bad, here’s why :
1. Got Started On Christmas Shopping
2. Started Blogging Again
3. Worked Out Every Day
4. Planned Dinner with a Friend I Haven’t Seen in a While
5. I am Finalizing a New Business
6. Re-Organized my Dresser
7. Ate Lunch & Dinner Every Day (big win)
8. Step Count Averaged Over 6k Steps a Day
9. Went To Target
10. Drank 64oz+ of Water Every Day
If you can’t find 10 good things about your week, then you need to go back and re-adjust how you look at it. Stressful days at work or dram with friends happens, it’s easy for it to consume your thoughts. Always remember that there is always a silver lining. You might read my ten things and go “Tina, seriously?” But I promise that organizing my dresser and getting my step count over 5k a day are huge accomplishments. Take a minute and think about the good things that happened when you’re having a crappy week, I promise you that not everything is as bad as it seems.
I challenge you on your toughest week to sit back and come up with 10 things that you accomplished or are proud of. I promise it’s not as difficult as it seems. It also feels amazing to have that mindset shift from negative to positive!
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It’s Friday and it’s the weekend! Time to finally turn off the alarm and not think about work for two days! It’s a small win, but I am 100 percent here to celebrate it. You know what that means – It’s finally time to bring back the Friday Five! I’m really diving back into this blog thing full force, so I hope you all appreciate it!
This week has been filled with crappy weather (Yay Hurricane Season) and a new car!! So you might see my Friday Five pretty reflective of those two things. Check it out!
I promised myself that I wasn’t going to do it, but it happened. I caved and bought a barefoot dreams blanket. This thing is really as incredible as everyone has been saying. I am such a big fan of cozy days and nights this time of year. This blanket has earned itself a spot in my starting cozy line up. I can’t imagine another Netflix series binge or late night movie without it.
I know these are insanely priced ( I honestly shouldn’t of splurged and got one, but we all make mistakes) but if you are in the blanket market or looking for a great gift to give to someone you care about, I couldn’t recommend this any more than I do!
I bought this three pack of fall candle scents from Yankee Candle and I absolutely love them. They smell incredible and really bring the fall vibes into my bedroom! I have them spread out through my room and the really look adorable. Yankee Candles burn so slow and even that these will last me the entire season. Right in time for me to whip out my absolute favorite winter scents.
The past few months have been a giant whirlwind for me. I still can’t believe it hasn’t even been 2 full months since I moved to New York from Boston. Back in New York I started working like a mad woman, running days from 6am to 8pm. Picking up private training clients (for lacrosee), coaching my lacrosse team, working my full-time job, and starting my side hustle (I guess it’s like my side side side hustle), all have been happening simultaneously and I was getting so overwhelmed.
So I picked up this adorable Rae Dunn “Best Year Ever” Planner and boy has this made a huge difference. I got the cute teal color and it is just so calming to look at, which I need while my head is spinning doing approximately 103 different things every minute. I’ve had planners before, but there’s something about this one that I love and it really has kept all of my ducks in a row.
So I’ve been missing Boston and not wanting to do my hair this week, so I’ve been getting a lot of use out of my ’47 Red Sox hat. The camo is perfect and goes with literally anything. I’ve been throwing this hat on my classic outfit – black leggings, white t-shirt, and jean jacket. It’s so basic but it really is perfect, especially this time of year. So thank you ’47 for making the best products out there and keep my messy hair hidden, stay the same never change.
I’m still in shock that I bought a car with white leather interior. It’s just so stunning and beautiful. But I’m a mess and terrified that I am going to absolutely destroy it. I bought pretty much every detailing product under the sun and this Chemical Guys product is the one I am most excited for. I am going to keep this seats sparkling clean. Also, not a soul is permitted to wear jeans in my car. Sorry I’m not sorry, no chances are being taking here.
That’s it for this week! – I’m about to head out east for a weekend full of paintball and race cars. Another amazing weekend planned and I’ll be totally logged off for it. So I’ll catch everyone next week! Hope you all have an amazing weekend! Let me know your plans in the comments below!
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As some of you may know, my Jeep Wrangler has seen better days. I have (and will always) drive my vehicles as they are made to be driven. I put over 100,000 miles on the engine in under 4 years. With the average driver hitting around 15,000 miles a year, you can see that I drive a lot more than the average human.
Granted, I was driving between New York and Boston frequently and going on road trips on weekends I wasn’t heading to New York. I guess you can say that I enjoy driving, because I really do love it. I know some people are thinking it, Did you get rid of the Jeep Wrangler?!NO. Absolutely not. There was no way that I was going to let that happen. I still have so many plans for the Jeep and still have so many adventures and trips that I want to go on with it.
Because I had so many plans and places I wanted to take the Jeep was the real reason I started looking for a new cars. The Jeep Wrangler just couldn’t a daily driver any more and I had to accept that. It has now earned the title as my toy car and will be used as such. Don’t you worry I will still be posting all the Jeep content and will continue to mark places off my wheeling bucket list. Just because I added another car to my fleet doesn’t mean that I’ll be removing myself from the Jeep Life,
Buying that Jeep was such an accomplishment for me. It was the first car I bought on my own and my first loan I ever took out. Big old adult moment there. The time has come to step into a different world and get a more reliable and comfortable mode of transportation, a world I still can’t believe I am now a part of.
Check out the new daily! It’s a 2012 Yachting Blue Porsche Panamera 4s with Cream Interior. It’s a big change up from the Jeep Wrangler, but I am so excited to start driving this V8 powered 400+hp bad boy. Here’s to new adventures with the new (to me) ride!!
I just had to fill out a survey for “life milestones” that I have completed or anticipate completing in the past and upcoming year. Just a few questions included were : Did you buy a home? Are you pregnant? Did you have a baby? Are you planning a wedding? Do you plan or planning a wedding? Do you plan on getting pregnant? Are you going to be a bridesmaid in a wedding? Are you graduating with a new degree? If anyone knows my life, you are aware that the answer to every single one of those questions is a hard no. I’m sure there are many others who fall into the same boat as me. If we haven’t answered yes to any of those questions, have we really accomplished anything in our lives so far?
Some might say yes. But I don’t think that’s the case at all, soo ya girl did a little brainstorming. Check out this list of life milestones that adults should be celebrating.
Social Media does not always do the best job at building up our self esteems. With social media feeds with perfectly curated images with designer fashion, luxurious vacations, and every home renovation you’ve ever wanted (for the house you don’t own), constantly being scrolled through and double tapped it’s hard to not compare your reality to someone else’s. Comparing your life to someone else’s is inevitable but should be avoided at all costs. If you think you have nothing to celebrate in your life than keep reading.
Life Milestones That Should be Celebrated More
Starting a New Job
Any change in a career should be noted as a milestone. We spend most of our time working, at least I do! Our jobs and careers do define us to a degree because they take up a lot of our daily time. One of the first questions you ask someone when you meet them is, “What do you do?” Your career is a large part of your life, so why not celebrate a change? So if you got a new job this year or hell if you left your job and started your own company, You go Glen Coco! That’s a milestone if I’ve ever heard of one.
It takes guts to take a leap of faith and start something new. Whether it’s a job in a new industry, a total new career path, or a new business. Trust me, that does not go unnoticed. There’s multiple reasons why you might get a new job. You could out grow your current role or you could have gotten fired. Maybe you had a very toxic workplace and finally built up the courage to jump ship. Moral of the story – It’s a big decision, a big deal, and definitely a life milestone.
Leaving a Toxic Relationship
There’s always so much celebration about relationships moving to the next level or stage, but there doesn’t seem to be any for ending one. In today’s world there is a lot pressure to portray a perfect life and image and that includes relationships. Having a picture perfect engagement and wedding are things that some people dream of, even if it is with the wrong person and things are going south. We create false realities and say “it will get better.” Sometimes that works, but other times it doesn’t. If you are in a relationship that just isn’t working anymore, there is no harm is saying you tried, you did your best (Dane Cook voice #iykyk), and it’s time to move on.
Let’s start seeing endings as new beginnings. Leaving a toxic relationship is so much more of an accomplishment to be proud of than sticking around and forcing a future with someone that just isn’t meant to be. Realizing your worth and leaving a bad situation is 100% a life milestone.
Moving to a New City
Moving is typically tied with sadness, not always but hear me out. Leaving a place you’ve lived means leaving the life you’ve built, the friends you’ve made, and your home behind. It’s so tough. I’ve moved and seen friends move to different sides of the country, and it hurts every time. It’s sad to know that things aren’t going to be the same anymore and that life is going to change. Just because things are changing doesn’t mean it’s a bad change!
Whether it’s you moving or a friend moving, it is something to be celebrated. Change is a good thing and that needs to be celebrated more. Embrace that new city and the new life you are going to built! Look at everything that’s ahead, not what you are leaving behind. Life milestone approved.
Paying off Your Credit Cards in Full Every Month
You know what’s really cool? Finally being able to call yourself financially stable.
Starting out a career right out of college or after high school has the tough reality that you aren’t going to be making the amount of money that you want to be to support your lifestyle. That can lead to crippling debt month over month, and that’s a scary position to be in. What’s a really awesome accomplishment that you should be proud of? Finally being able to pay off a credit card balance in full and not carry over debt month to month. That’s a life milestone accomplishment. Can you also start putting money aside to invest into a 401k? You’ve made it to stability, you should be pumped.
Starting a Side Hustle
Starting a side hustle means you are hungry for more, and that’s a pretty awesome thing! That means you want more out of life than you are currently getting. Maybe it’s more money, a more fulfilling path, or a more flexible schedule so you can spend more time with your family. Your “why” could be a million different things and it doesn’t impact the fact that you started something new! That’s something to be celebrated.
It takes a whole lot of courage to start something new and takes even more to continue building something from scratch every single minute of every single day. The effort and dedication it takes to start a side hustle is no small feat. If you decided to start you own side hustle, kudos to you, you took the first step. Life milestone achieved!
Saying “No” to Someone or to Something
Learning to respect your time is a huge deal. I’m a big yes person, and I’m still working on this, but I am so incredibly proud and jealous of the people who have mastered this. When you say no to a person or an obligation, it is ok. You’re not letting anyone down. It’s a big deal to finally respect your time and realize that you cannot do everything, you may want to but you also don’t want to run yourself into the deep end. Saying “No” to someone or something is an accomplishment in itself.
Huge shout out to everyone who can say no to an event or plans, you reached a big old life milestone and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
See there’s a lot of things to be celebrated as life milestones!
What have you done that is a major life milestone? Let’s normalize celebrating the little things that are really big things!
The moral of the story here is to know that you are living an amazing and fulfilled life, even if you aren’t hitting the so-called life milestones that you’re supposed to be accomplishing at your age. There are so many things to be celebrated every single day.
Real Talk – do not compare your life to someone else’s 🙂
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Another Friday another Friday Five. This week has been one emotional roller coaster for me. Seriously, there’s been so many feels and so many personal battles I’ve had to fight and I think my Friday Five reflects that pretty well. So if you are dealing with something in your life, I hope this helps.
One thing I’ve been actively focusing on this week is staying positive and really focusing on the good in life. I may think everything around me is falling a part, but taking a closer look into what’s going on, not everything is thatttttt bad. I’ve had quite a few ugly cries that I’d rather not admit to, but we’re all human and it happens. Break Ups suck. End of story!
But it’s Friday! WOOOOO! The week is over and I’m so thankful. It’s actually ending on a pretty damn high note if you ask me. I’m hoping to share some big news with you all soon, but until then here’s my Friday Five, all the things I’m super thankful for this week!
1. The Good Quote
The Good Quote has been one of my go to Instagram accounts for some time. If you follow me you are most likely familiar with them because I share them 2 to 3 times a day on my story. They share the most relatable quotes for all different situations you may face. TheGoodQuote community includes 20 million people! Everyone needs a pick me up, feel good moment sometimes. This week was my time for that and I am so thankful for the TheGoodQuote for always having a post that I could relate to.
With May ending, which means Mental Health Awareness Month is also ending, I hope that people don’t forget about how important it is to keep an eye on their own well-being.
The amount of obsession I have for my Air Pod Pros is limitless. I swear I didn’t know what I was I missing without them. This week I needed them to zone out and really just shut my head up. My head hamsters were going off running on their wheel and music was the only way to drown out the thoughts. So big shout out to Apple and their Air Pods (that I totally used to make fun of because I thought they were useless and dumb). They are totally worth the investment and I can’t tell you enough good things about them. Old me was a dumb-dumb for even hating on them in the slightest.
This week was brutal for allergies. I know I am not alone in experiencing them but holy cow it’s like I’ve been walking through a cloud of pollen every day. No sleep for me, until Claritin-D did the lord’s work and got me back to normal. So Claritin-D, Thank You!
4. Twinings Tea
Tea at night has been a staple for as long as I can remember at my house. Personally I drink Green Tea like water, but this week I tried something different. I was drinking lemon tea with honey, trying to help with my allergies, and I think I found my new favorite tea!
I recently got this amazing variety pack of Twinings Tea and this is the first week I’m really straying form the norm and trying some new flavors. Really been a game changer. If you are a tea person or if you might be interested in trying it out, this pack is perfect for you. The 50-count assortment pack is incredible. Not only is drinking tea a solid staple in any nighttime routine, but at any point in the day drinking tea has always been a nice reminder for me to just relax.
This week has been a challenge but has really helped me grow. Lessons have been learned and self-reflection was at an all time high. No matter how I may be put down, I’m learning to love myself and be confident through everything. I always strive to be a positive light through negativity, and sometimes I forget that. Being positive and hopeful isn’t always easy, but when it’s all said and done loving yourself should always come first. So because of that, I am extra thankful for myself this week.
It’s more that okay to give yourself a pat on the back especially when you deserve it. Don’t forget to be proud of yourself. Self love means loving yourself no matter the time, place, or situation. It gets lost in translation sometimes, but you don’t need anyone to complete you. Never forget how truly awesome you are. 🙂