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Life of a Workaholic | 5 Lessons Learned From Overworking

Raise your hand if you’ve ever over-worked! *raises hand*

As a workaholic, it’s easy to get lost in your job and lose focus on how much you time you actually spend at work. Overworking is something I would wish on no one, but is something that I’m convinced a lot of people struggle with. Overworking is common – so save yourself the time and mental turmoil, and check out 5 lessons that overworking teaches you.

Burn Out Should Be Avoided At All Costs.

Have you ever found a song you really like, and play it on repeat? For like a day? And then you can’t stand it any more because it’s all you listened to for 24 hours straight? Well that’s burn out. I burnout songs quicker than anyone else and I kind of enjoy running a song through it’s lifespan, but burnout can happen in other places too. Avoiding burnout at work should be a main priority, especially for a workaholic. Instead of laboring over your laptop or computer into the late night hours – take a much needed break, go make a meal, or even go workout! Burnout can negatively effect your production at work and can cause some tension and stress. Burnout can lead to losing motivation and feeling stagnant – which never ends well for yourself or your career.

Avoiding burn out can be managed by acknowledging the signs heading towards it. Manage your work schedule – don’t work late or start work early every single day. Listen to your body – if you need a break, take one. Maintain a healthy level of stress – If your stress levels feel through the roof every day, it might be time to take some time off. Cut yourself some slack and avoid work burn out.

Taking Time For Yourself Is Okay (And Should Be Encouraged).

You should not be nervous to take a day off – in fact you should be encouraged. Working so much every day makes it difficult to take time off and disconnect from work. Feeling so attached to work is not good for anyone’s mental health. You don’t have to overwork to feel productive. Taking time off helps you refocus and reset. It makes you more productive at the end of the day!

Give Yourself Realistic Expectations.

Sometimes we expect ourself to do the job of 4 different people – and we convince ourself that doing the job of 4 different people is manageable, doable, and something we can maintain for a long period of time. When in fact, convincing ourself of those things can be a huge issue. Setting realistic expectations in the workplace for yourself, and to hire-ups, can help you be productive and accountable, while not allowing yourself to get incredibly stressed out and overworked. Moral of the story here is don’t bite off more than you can chew – don’t set unrealistic goals for yourself, you are only setting yourself up for failure.

Your Mental Health Matters The Most.

Working is a huge part of everyone’s lives – it’s how we afford to live and support those who matter most to us. People spend a majority of their lives working (and commuting to and from work). If you are unhappy or stressed out from work, or working too much, know that you can remove yourself from that situation and find employment elsewhere. Just because you’ve worked somewhere for a long time or thought that a job was your “dream job” doesn’t mean that you have to stay. Stay in touch with your feelings and make sure you are happy and that your mental health is in good standings.

It’s Okay To Say No.

Struggling to handle the things on your plate at work and then you’re asked to do more? It’s ok to say no. You are helping yourself maintain your sanity and you should not be ashamed for doing that. In fact being realistic and saying no to a higher up shows those above you that you can be realistic and value your current workload. Showing that you are invested in what you are doing and want to keep 100% of your energy in one place shows focus and dedication. A boss wouldn’t want you so spread thin that you aren’t able to complete any tasks. Remember that it’s ok to say no.


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The Best After Christmas Amazon Finds

Did you not get all the gifts you wanted this Christmas? Want to treat yourself for surviving the horrible year that 2020 has been? Need to get a gift for those pesky January birthdays that sneak up right after the holidays? This list is for you! Check out some of the awesome deals from Amazon!

Luna Queen Sized Weighted Blanket

Price – $109.99

Amazon Echo

Original Price – $99.99
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Bose Spot Earbuds

Original Price – $179
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Apple AirPods Pro

Original Price – $249
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Apple Watch Series 5

Original Price – $429
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iRobot Roomba i6

Original Price – $799.99
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Keurig K-Slim Coffee Maker

Original Price – $109
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Tory Burch Nylon Ella Tote

Original Price – $198
Sale Price – $179


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Self Love New Years Resolutions For 2021

Hey I’m back! I took a bit of time off around Christmas to enjoy some quality time with my family. As much as I love blogging and being active on Social Media – it really is tough to balance time. But we are back and there is only a week left until the new year! 2021 has some pretty interesting shoes to fill after 2020.

New Years Resolutions don’t have to be crazy goals – although it is nice to set a reach goal that you can work towards. Typically these are the resolutions that fall apart a few weeks after they are started. New Years Resolutions are a great thing to use as a stepping stone to get your year off to a great start. Trust me, I get that you can make a decision at any point during the year to start on a new path – but there’s something about making a change on January 1st that really sets the tone for the entire year.

After 2020, the dumpster fire that it really was, it’s time to practice some self love. Heading into 2021, the goal is to go up from here. That starts with getting yourself to a good place. Practicing self-love is the way to do just that! Check out some New Years resolutions that promote self-love.


Self Care New Years Resolutions

Don’t go to sleep with make-up on.
Implement a daily skincare routine.
Make your bed every morning.
Implement a night time routine.
Write in a journal daily.
Use daily affirmations.
Get 8 hours of sleep every night.
Limit your screen time every day (1, 2, 3, 4 hours a day).
No social media on the weekends.
Put your phone away an hour before bedtime every night.

New Years Resolutions For Being Active

Work out 3 times a week.
Take at least 10,000 steps every day.
Sign up for a gym membership (and use it).
Start a new workout routine.
Run/Walk 1, 2, 3+ miles a day.
Sign up for a 5k and train for it!
Start a yoga practice, and practice daily.
Commit to at least 30 minutes of exercise every day.
Sign up for obe fitness at home workouts.
Participate in a fitness challenge – ex. Fit by Katy Winter Challenge

Nutrition New Years Resolutions

Cut sugar (in small doses) from your diet.
Drink at least 1 gallon of water a day.
Have 3 complete meals a day.
Learn your macro nutrients and stick to them.
Add greens/veggies to every meal.
Give yourself 2 cheats every week.
Stop eating fast food.

Mindset New Years Resolutions

Start a gratitude journal.
Create and update a vision board with your future goals.
Write down 3 good things every day – one for health, one for wealth, one for happiness
Eliminate negative self-talk.
Set 3 goals for the year – one financial, one for health, one for relationships.
Remove one negative influence from your life.
Look for a new job/career that will make you happy.

Wealth New Years Resolutions

Stop buying coffee daily.
Buy food weekly from the grocery store and stop eating from restaurants.
Save x amount of dollars per week.
Start using Acorns to invest money for the future.
Create a savings account and set automatic payments.
Pay credit cards off in full every month.
Whenever you pay with cash, and get a $5 bill in change put that aside and don’t spend it. At the end of the year count how much money you have.
Replace retail therapy with another activity.
Use stash app to start saving for your goals, car, home, etc.


What are some ways you are going to promote self love during 2021?

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4 Christmas Themed Instagram Story Templates

Christmas is around the corner! There are Christmas lights showing up on many house, Christmas trees are seen on top of car roofs, and you can basically see Christmas cheer everywhere you look. It really is such a great time of year for family, friends, and great times. Why not carry over some of that holiday excitement over to Instagram?

As tempting as it is to want to go take cute Christmas pictures outside to post on your feed – it’s super cold here on Long Island and there’s no snow. So that’s out of the question, I’ll be staying inside with hot chocolate by a fire. Next option? Stories!

That’s why I’ve created these 4 Christmas Themed Instagram Stories! They are super fun and easy to share and fill your own answers in!

Try them out and share them with you friends!


Christmas This or That Instagram Story


My Christmas Wishlist Instagram Story


Christmas Favorites Instagram Story


Christmas Bingo Instagram Story


I hope you enjoy these Instagram story templates as much as I do! Don’t forget to tag me when you try them out. πŸ™‚


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5 Reasons Why A Social Media Break Can Change Your Life

Let’s be real here, real quick… Social Media can completely take over and consume our thoughts. That’s actually what it is designed to do – it’s designed to be an addiction. It’s scary to think about, but it really does have to be acknowledged. The negative side of Social Media pops its ugly head into our lives pretty frequently, whether we notice it or not. Taking a break from Social Media is not a bad thing. In fact, it could change your outlook!

Not everything about Social Media is negative though – it is a great way to stay connected to distant loved ones and even meet new like-minded friends. The idea of connecting digitally has opened up so many opportunities for people all over the world. It really is an incredible thing.

Have you ever taken a break from Social Media? It could be a day, a week, or even a whole month! It can really help you reset – before I get into it too much here are 5 reasons why a Social Media can change your life.

1. Allows You To Stop Focusing On Other People’s Lives

This, in my mind, is the number one reason why I take Social Media breaks. Sometimes you get lost in lives of influencers and celebrities – you might find yourself down a rabbit hole in looking from accounts and profiles. Admit it, we’ve all done it.

As intriguing as the Kardashian family’s lives are and following up on all the latest Bachelor/Bachelorette drama, they have nothing compared to your life. Having a Social Media Break allows you to focus on your own life! Take the time you are spending looking into other’s lives and start investing it in your own.

2. Gives You Time Back In Your Day

Taking a Social Media break means not going on any Social Networking platforms – a clean break from them. You ever think about all the time you spend throughout the day looking at pictures, posts, and videos? It’s probably way more time than you want to admit to (it is for me at least).

Think about all the things you can focus on if you gained an hour or two back in your day? That’s exactly what a Social Media break can do. It can give you time back in your day to try new things, maybe get off your butt and exercise, start a blog! The possibilities are endless – I think it’s fair to say that having a Social Media break can give you the time back in your day to finish a project you’ve always wanted to finish or start a new one.

3. Can Help Your Eyes & Head

I hate getting my weekly screen time report and seeing the hours a week that I spend looking through social, it’s pretty depressing actually. I hope I’m not the only one, I’m actually confident I’m not, who can’t believe the hours that were taken away of my week just simply scrolling. Having a Social Media break can help with the mindless scrolling and staring, which can help your health. Phone screens give off blue light which can have negative effects on eyesight. It is also a leading cause of migraines! Limiting your screen time and time on social media will give your eyes and your head a break.

4. Teaches You To Live In The Moment

I think @influencersinthewild is the ultimate evidence for this point. Seeing the absolutely crazy limits people will go to capture a new picture is at times, hysterical. Because of Social Media, people are always on the look out for the next best picture or video. Whether it be waiting in line to take a picture at a painted wall or not paying attention at a concert or sporting event to get a ‘cool’ picture, people seem to be letting their lives revolve around Social Media. This just means that they are missing out on interactions and moments that you can’t get back.

A Social Media break can help you live in the moment. Put your phone down and start making mental memories! By taking a break from Social Media you allow yourself to pay attention to things other than your phone screen. You may see something new and learn something new. By taking your head out of staring at your screen, you can open your eyes to memories that you can cherish forever. Not worrying about capturing the next most-liked picture on the feed allows you to enjoy the people around you.

5. Can Help Your Self Esteem

Social Media is filled with images and people that appear to be nothing shy of perfect. Fancy restaurants, fancy vacations, luxury cars, perfect models with ‘perfect’ bodies are constant staples on the Instagram Explore Page. Remember FaceTune is a real thing and a lot of people use it daily (Tana Mongeau I’m talking to you!). There’s nothing wrong with face tuning pictures to look your best self – but it is wrong to look at other people’s Instagram Posts and think less of yourself. When looking through Instagram it’s easy to get lost in seeing what you don’t have or what you don’t look like. We live in a world that promotes instant gratification, likes, follows, and bases them all off of looks. Getting lost in the perfectly curated world of photoshopped realities can play games with your mind.

It’s important to remember that you are beautiful, strong, and have everything that could want in life. A social media break can help reset your mind and help you realize that. There’s no need to compare yourself to others. There’s no need to do things others are doing. Focus on yourself and your own well-being. Taking a break from social media can allow you to fall in love with yourself again. Your follower count doesn’t matter. The amount of likes you get doesn’t matter. Who likes your pictures doesn’t matter. You matter. Put yourself first!


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The Best Last Minute GIfts | Holiday Gift Guide 2020

Alright, I get it. Not everyone gets their holiday shopping done in August… Trust me, I know. I used to be the person who went out on December 23rd to buy gifts that were to be opened on Christmas Eve. Note : I am a recovered procrastinator, I’ve managed to finish all my Christmas shopping already andddd that’s a huge win. So for everyone out there who is frantically searching for gifts to give (or is just super last minute), here’s a list of gifts that you should have no issue finding that are guaranteed to be super appreciated!


Cozy Gifts

Cozy gifts are the absolute best. You can find most of these items are your local TJ Maxx, Marshall’s, or Target. Making a theme when giving a gift is always a nice touch – try putting together three or four of these items!

Home Decor Gifts

Someone you need a gift for just move? buy a house? maybe loves decorating? Then this is for you. Run to your neighborhood HomeGoods or interior design based small design, and grab some of these up! Grab a few of these, or top it off with a Home Goods or Home Depot giftcard!

Gifts with Alcohol

These are quick gifts to put together and always well appreciated! For an extra gift match any of the drink suggestions for a subscription to a meal-box service like Hello Fresh – Dinner and Drinks! You can grab these at your local liquor/wine store or at any store that sells kitchenware.

Gifts that Encourage Self Love

There’s nothing wrong with giving some gifts that encourage self love – and me time! These are great gifts to pick up quick at TJ Maxx or Marshall’s – they always seem to be in stock, so don’t worry about anything being sold out!

Tea and Coffee Gifts

You can’t go wrong with spoiling someone with all the coffee and tea in the world! Try pairing some of these gifts with a gift card to Dunkin’, Starbucks, or your local coffee spot!

Kitchen & Cooking Gifts

For all the culinary lovers out there – try spoiling them by going directly to their heart, cooking gifts! Try spicing these up with a gift card to a local restaurant or a gift card to a cooking class!

Miscellaneous Gifts

Looking for something a little different, that you can pick up from any where? Here’s the list for you – run to your local CVS, pharmacy, bakery, or 7-11 and you will be all set.

  • Lottery Tickets
  • Card & Gift Card
  • Plate of Cookies/Goodies & Gift Card

All my last minute Christmas Shoppers I hope this list finds you well and helps you on your last minute gift hunt. Are you a planner or a procrastinator? Let me know!

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Ideas For Your Morning Routine

It’s getting colder and the sun is rising later, which means we will all be waking up in the dark soon. Maybe it’s just me but as winter gets into full swing here on Long Island, waking up with no sunlight is so difficult. It literally could take an army to get me out of my bed. Even after waking up it’s tough to get going, just a constant groggy feeling – it sucks. Implementing a morning routine can help with all of this!

Starting the day on the right foot can lead to a super productive day. Having an effective and maintainable morning routine can help you keep those good mornings going day after day.

Did you know that having a morning routine can give you :

More Structure

Less Stress

More Free Time

Higher Productivity

Better Sleep Patterns

Better Health

Getting your life together in the morning can lead to all sorts of positive things! There’s no better feeling than waking up and feel productive. A morning routine can help with this! But it does take time and some fine tuning. Sometimes you plan too little and sometimes you plan too much, it about coming up with the perfect combination that gets you fired up to start your day. Don’t be discouraged if a morning routine didn’t work in the past, you can try again and make it better for you!

Having a morning routine can kick start the mood for your entire day. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy either. I personally give myself 30-45 minutes every morning to run through my morning routine. A routine can be different for everyone, some people need an hour to wake up some people need 5 minutes. If you are thinking about adding a morning routine to your schedule or just looking to change yours up a bit, here’s a list of some things you can include!

Make a Healthy Breakfast

Write Down Your Goals For The Day

Make a Cup of Coffee

Going for a Walk

Practice Yoga

Drink Water

Skincare Routine

Read for 30 Minutes

Journal

Shower

Make Your Bed

Workout

There are really endless possibilities that you can incorporate into a morning routine. The idea is to create a maintainable routine that not only makes you excited to wake up in the morning, but gets you ready to tackle the entire day ahead. It gives you time to plan in the morning and can help you lay out a game plan for the day. In reality, there really aren’t any downsides to a morning routine!

Do you have a morning routine? What are some of the things you do every morning?



10 Things About Me That You Probably Don’t Know

I came across a post on Oliva’s blog, and it got me thinking that it may be a good idea to tell you all more about me! I tend to write more about Long Island, my Jeep Wrangler, and self-love/self-care pieces (all of which are super important to me). Although I share and write a decent amount of social media, I try my best to keep my private life well private. It took a little brainstorming but I think it is pretty cool to give you an inside look at who I am and who is writing all this content! We might be more similar or different than you think.

In order to get to know me better, and let you learn more about who I am, I think it would be fun to share 10 things about me that you might not know :

1. I Played Lacrosse In College

I am a former D1/D2 NCAA athlete – kinda crazy that it feels like yesterday but my college career started 10 years ago! I’ve played lacrosse my entire life and continue to stay involved in the sport by coaching at the club level, providing private and small group training to youth players, and running/organizing clinics for local towns. I played at the Division 1 level at UMass Amherst and completed my playing career at Dowling College. Lacrosse has made me who I am and I am so lucky to have had to opportunity to play at the highest level possible.

2. Cooking Is Not My Thing

Ask me to bake anything and I got you! But cooking – that’s a whole other playing field that I steer far from. I mean I can do the basics and I follow directions really well, but coming up with creative meals and cooking from scratch is not my forte. I want to learn more and get better, but I’m pretty content with hoping I surround myself with a bunch of people that can cook! I do have to say, if there’s one meal I can cook it’s breakfast. I love making eggs and omelettes and pancakes – that I can do pretty damn well.

3. I Love Sneakers

I am a self-declared sneakerhead and have been since High School. I had a bit of a fall off when I wasn’t making enough money to support my expensive habit, but guess what? Sneakerhead Tina is back in full swing. I currently have my eye on two upcoming releases – Stussy X Nike Hemp Air Force 1 and Off-White X Futura X Nike Dunks. I’ve recently been all aboard the Yeezy train and have gotten lucky in the past few releases, but I have always had a soft spot for Nike sneakers. My collection of Dunks and Air Max’s was impressive – I wish I was the same size shoe to wear them all! My one rule for sneakers is to never buy after market, I will only pay retail for any sneakers that I own.

4. I Only Wear Mis-Matched Socks

Yea, this is a weird one but only the real one’s know how accurate this statement is. I like fun socks and I don’t like matching them after doing laundry. My feet are always covered by sneakers so it’s not like anyone ever sees my mis-matched socks! I’ve always been about being efficient, taking time to match socks could be better used elsewhere – like writing this blog. Think about all the socks you’ve matched and folded, that’s probably a pretty decent chunk of time you could of been using somewhere else!

5. Madewell Is My Favorite Store

I love Madewell – I swear by their jeans and they really are the only ones that fit me just right. Whether I am at work or out with friends it’s pretty much guaranteed that at least 2 pieces of my outfit are from Madewell. They really have clothes (shoes, bags, and accessories) for every occasion. The sale section is always pretty great as well, I’m always about getting a good deal – you can typically always find al sizes and extra discounts in the sale section!

6. I Was An Amateur Bodybuilder

Way back a few years ago, really not that long ago, I was into bodybuilding. I competed in NPC shows and earned the Nationally Qualified ranking. I was planning on competing at the National Level for my Pro Card but ultimately decided against it. I learned a lot about myself during that time and what I was capable of doing, physically and mentally. I am very happy that I left the sport. Not only are you pushing extremes physically, but it takes a mental toll as well. Constantly being compared to others and worrying about your own image starts to eat away at you confidence and self-esteem. As much as people preach that it’s “you against you,” every competitor knows that you are comparing and going against others. I’m happy I am one of the few who have removed myself from the sport without any major consequences, physically or mentally. Maintaining a good relationship with fitness is also something I am grateful for! I hope everyone who is consumed in the fitness world currently, comes to the conclusion that the world doesn’t revolve around the way you look. It’s all about balance!

7. My Favorite Color is Purple

This one people might say – Tina your Jeep is purple, you love purple, we get it. That is all true but most don’t know why purple is my favorite color. I lost a very close friend in 2012 to a tragic dirt bike accident. It affected me very much and I still carry the pain with me every day. His favorite color was purple. I started wearing purple bracelets to remember him by. Slowly but surely the purple bracelets evolved into pretty much everything – the color brings back all the happy times, the memories, and everything I never want to forget. Whenever I see purple I think of Nick and know that he is with me always. Purple will always be my favorite color.

8. I Am 5’10”

I am pretty tall for a woman and never really liked my height until recently. I was kind of tall for most of my life but really shot up in High School. Being the tallest person in the room is a typical thing, I’m used to feeling like an Avatar. I used to slouch a lot and hated taking pictures with my shorter friends. I started embracing my height and after all is said and done i really do love being tall! It doesn’t hurt that my boyfriend is 6’5″ so I always feel little next to him!. πŸ™‚

9. I Will Own My Own Business

I guess this is a future thing, but manifesting works wonders – I will own my own business. I’ve always had an entrepreneurial mind and have many side hustles. The idea is that I put enough energy and focus behind one to take off. Being super realistic, I’m spread very thin between my full time job, coaching, lacrosse private trainings, and lacrosse clinics. One of my goals is to dive into e-commerce and really take advantage of this super digital era that we are living it.

10. I Am An Emo Kid

Yup – Growing up on Long Island during the pop-punk/emo scene pretty much assured I would be an emo kid. My seat belt-belt, skinny jeans, and band tees were the regular. I still listen to all my favorite albums from the mid-2000’s – emo drives in my car happen weekly. I still go to shows pretty often, the last one I went to was Silverstein’s 15 year Anniversary Show at House of Blues in Boston. While in Boston I got to see Anniversary shows with Senses Fail, Bayside, The Story So Far, Of Mice and Men, Anthony Green, the list goes on. I’ve always been big into music and the scene!


So there it is – 10 facts about me that you might not know! I have to say this was a pretty fun blog to end the week with. Let’s hear it! What is a fact about you that others might not know? Feeling rebellious? I challenge you to post 10 things about you!

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Life of a Workaholic : How To Handle Work Stress

It’s the end of the year and I cannot wait for my week and a half off! This year has had some many ups and downs – from moving from Boston and starting a new job, to navigating my way out of an extremely toxic relationship and finding a better one. I swear 2020 was the year for ultimate growth – but one thing that’s been consistent throughout most of the year? Work Stress.

Some people handle work stress better than others – I like to think I have a good hold on it, but sometimes I let it control my day. The first thing to do before trying to fix work stress, is acknowledging that it is a thing! We spend so much time at work, a majority of our lives, that it just seems normal at some point. Guess what? It’s not. Yes, some stress is good. It means you’re invested in reaching a goal and motivated to do it. When that stress reaches a higher level and it becomes unmaintainable, then your productivity will plummet. You want to avoid that at all costs.

Finding the line being highly productivity and stress related burn out is tough in the work place, especially in highly competitive environments. Once you’ve acknowledged that work stress is 100% the problem, here are some ways to help you decompress and keep your sanity.


Figure Out What Is Causing Your Work Stress

Work Stress can come from various different sources – figuring out what is causing the stress can help you better understand how to control it and also how to navigate your way out of it. Sometimes we get stressed over things that just aren’t worth it, you need to understand the root or the problem to know how to fix it. Maybe you have a micro-managing boss who is always nagging in your ear. Maybe you set unrealistic daily expectations for yourself and struggle to reach your goals every day. It could be that you are just unhappy at work. The list really could go on forever – every industry and job title has its own pressures and stress that come along with the territory.

Once you understand why your work stress is getting to a crazy point, you can start to develop a plan to fix it. Try to solve something that you don’t know the basis of can be tough, all the wine and essential oils can’t solve a problem if you don’t know why you have it.

Work Breaks Into Your Daily Schedule

Staring at your computer or working yourself to the bone for 8 hours straight doesn’t do anyone good. If you find yourself stressed from work, give yourself time regularly to take a break. Make sure you respect this time! Don’t go and book meetings or schedule tasks during your free time.

Breaks help with your productivity and your focus. Stepping away helps clear your mind and gives you a chance to look at things with fresh eyes. A task that was once daunting might not be as bad at second glance. Allowing yourself 5-10 minutes to get away from work, wether it be a task or a person, can help save your entire day.

Ask For Help

This is tough for a lot of people, myself included. Remember this – asking for help does not mean defeat. Asking for help doesn’t show weakness, it simply means that you need help! Most of the time, others are more than ready to assist a helping hand. If your work stress is coming from a place of unpreparedness or being unsure, asking for help can change your life. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from higher ups or peers – It’s a lot more beneficial to get the task done right first than to be told that it’s wrong and you have to re-do everything. Whatever you need help with just be vocal about it – everyone has been new or a beginner at some point. If you are confused, don’t know where to start, don’t know how to work something, not sure what to do next, don’t give up on it completely. Ask for help!

If You Need To Vent, Don’t Vent To A Co-Worker

If you have stress from work, chances are some of your co-workers do too. You should refrain at all costs from venting to them. Call your friends or your family. Talking about work stress to co-workers can open a can of worms when it comes to office drama and things getting re-told to people who shouldn’t hear them. You really just don’t want to go there. But why is this important to handling stress?

When you start venting with a co-worker, it will continue. It can become part of your every day to complain about how stressed you are and how miserable you can be. It takes time out of your day to finish your work and it puts a lot of negative energy in the air. Instead of talking to someone in your office or organization, try calling a close friend or family member. They’ll be totally unbiased, let you get whatever you have to off your chest and then go on with your day. It will only occur the next time you call or talk to them about it. Venting is so necessary and can help with controlling and decompressing stress from work – just make sure you are venting to the right people!

Stop Working At The Same Time Every Day, Don’t Overwork.

This might be a reason because I need to hear this… I work 12/13 hour days normally and it really takes a toll. Overworking might not be bad the first or second time, but it takes a mental and physical toll if it becomes a reoccuring issue. Letting work take over your life can be pretty negative toward your overall well-being. A way to combat this is to set a time that you can stop working and call it a day, don’t look back.

I totally get that some jobs you can’t do this and that some people have to be available 24/7. For situations like this, make sure your time off is your time off. Bringing work to days off makes work an around the clock event. If you can’t be done at a certain time then it is incredibly important to maximize your time off. Separate yourself from work and help get a head of your work stress!


I hope this was helpful! What are some ways that you handle work stress?

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5 Simple Ways To Show Someone You Care About Them

The holiday season is finally here! I am not one of those “Christmas begins after Halloween” people. For me, Christmas comes after Thanksgiving. The holiday season is about giving and about coming together with family and friends. With the world is it’s current state, there’s no knowing where things will be in a few weeks. Will everything shut down? Will the coronavirus continue spiking? No one knows, which means taking advantage of this holiday season and making sure you are keeping your loved ones close is so important.

Black Friday, Small Business Saturday, and Cyber Monday are all about striking deals to spoil yourself or those you care about most with gifts. Yes, giving big elaborate gifts can be seen as the ultimate way to show someone you care, but that’s not always the case. There are so many ways to show someone that you care about them with spending tons of money. I mean it is common knowledge the time is way more valuable than money.

Check out 5 simple ways to show someone you care about them :

1. Go out of your way to spend time with someone

There are so many things that you can do every single day. You can be a bum, you can go change the world, you can chase your dreams, you can really do anything you want! Choosing to spend time with someone is the best gift that can be given.

It sounds so simple, but for busy people this is easier said than done. Maybe you have to change plans, have lots of work left to do, or put something off that you’ve wanted to do just to sped time with someone you care about. Doing this costs absolutely nothing, and shows someone how much that they mean to you. You don’t have to spend money to show someone you care, giving someone your time weighs so much more.

2. Help someone solve a problem they’ve been struggling with

Everyone you know if fighting a battle. Making it a priority to help someone solve whatever they are facing shows so much more than a purchased gift ever could.

It could be a big or small problem : it could be an argument with a friend, an internal battle, or maybe putting together new Ikea furniture. It doesn’t matter what the problem is, but showing you are invested in finding a solution speaks volumes. If someone you care about is having a tough time with something, help them however you can. Even if you can’t fully solve the problem offer advice or a shoulder to lean in is incredibly valuable.

3. Leave a note or send someone a hand-written letter

Being in such a digital word, it’s easy to get caught up in sharing memes on Instagram or tagging someone in feel-good stories on Facebook. Writing a note for someone to find is such a personal gesture. If you can’t leave a note, try mailing a letter or a card to someone with a note inside. Sending a card to family, friends, or a significant other doesn’t take much time or money. It’s a quick way to show you care!

Just showing a small gesture that you had to take time out of your day to do can really change someone’s day. Adding in a personalized message or note can bring a smile to his/her face!

4. When something reminds you of someone, tell them

There’s really no need for explanation here : when you think of someone tell them! Maybe you watched a movie that you quote with a friend, or heard a song that brought up a special memory, whatever it is tell that person you thought of them. Being in a pandemic world, we might not be able to see everyone we’d like but letting someone know we are thinking about them can help us feel more connected while being apart. Thinking about this possibility of the looming second lockdown? Hopefully these 15 pieces of advice help!

5. Call someone out of the blue

Miss someone? Want to touch base but don’t know what to say? Do you need advice and there’s only one person you can trust? Just call them!

It could be a 5 minute chat or an hour long catch-up. The person you call might need that phone call more than you know! You never know how much a phone call could mean to someone, or even you reaching out could mean. Call a family member that you haven’t heard from a while. Haven’t seen a friend in a bit, give them a call! Just asking how things are going shows someone that you care. No money spent here, except on the phone bill.


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